@Niquii77
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Imagine that you’ve always had someone “keeping you on track,” and “keeping you organized,” and “waking you up for class,” and “making your meals and washing your clothes,” and/or “cleaning up after you.”
Now, suddenly, you’re hours away from home, you’re sleeping thru classes, you can’t find your stuff, you’re making painful mistakes (forgot test/forgot assignment)…
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Add in some bad experiences surrounding poor organizational skills or poor adaptation skills and you’ve got a kid saying, “I just can’t do this.”…“My mom isn’t here. She’s the one that’s supposed to be keeping me on track.” “Dad usually does this. I’m not getting it right.”…“I’ve been trying, but nothing is helping. I’m dumb.”
I will continue to believe learned helplessness applies…
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I agree with you. I think learned helplessness does happen.
I think there’s much value in “adding in” new age-appropriate responsibilities/chores as each year passes.
I don’t like the idea of kids being coddled for years and then suddenly, “poof” they’re on their own and expected to handle whatever comes down the pike. Imagine accepting a job and your boss only lets you answer the phone, and this goes on for years. Then suddenly he says, “hey, now that you’ve been here for 18 years, I’m going on vacation for 10 months, so you’ll have to mind the store.” Yikes! Who wouldn’t have an anxiety attack?