<p>Ok I just started college this summer and I'm living in the dorms. So far everything has gone pretty well. I'm having a problem though. First, everyone on my floor thinks I'm obsessed w/studying including my roommates. They think I study as lot because I'm taking evening classes + day classes so I'm not on the floor as they all are so they assume I'm in the library with my nose in a book. This hasn't really mattered to them, they still invite me to their social things and what not. The thing is they normally like to play cards in the evening. I don't know how to play euchre, holdem, or hearts. I have looked online at a tutorial but I'm still not picking up the games. So I always tell them no. Not to mention since I'm taking evening classes and day classes, I have to cram my studying and work into the short time after my evening class and also in the morning. They've all had like 5-6 hrs to do their work so they just chill for the rest of the evening. Today they invited me to party but I turned them down just because I didnt think I'd be comfortable there. Now I'm thinking that I'm being really rude. I sort of dont want to step out of my comfort zone and go to parties but at the same time i think i'm insulting them my continuously saying know. I think they think that I think I'm like real moral for studying instead of partying but I don't think that. Advice please?</p>
<p>How about stepping out of that comfort zone just once? See if you like it. (Parties are really fun :p) Oh yeah, you can always go play cards cuz friends are willing to teach you (at least for me). If you keep rejecting them and their social stuff, then your friends might stop inviting you as much sooner or later. </p>
<p>Also, might want to find a better balance between work and play. Cuz all you showing your friends is that you like to study more than having alil fun.</p>
<p>Join them with the card games sometimes. If you don't know the games just ask them. Tell them how you refused them before because you didn't know how to play. (Don't tell them you looked up online tutorials though...that just sounds wrong) Give the party a try. Who knows maybe you'll like it</p>
<p>It's not bad to admit that you don't really know the card games. Just tell them; they'll teach you and that's how you get to know them better. :)</p>
<p>As for the party, give it a go. You never know until you try it, right?</p>
<p>Yeah, tell them you don't know the games. They'll probably be happy to teach you. And yes, do step out of your comfort zone, for goodness sakes! That's the theme of freshman year of college, just turning the corner into the unknown. You'll never get the whole college experience if you never do anything that's a little scary for you. I'm not a partier either, but I did try it this year and it was pretty good. It's what you make of it. If you don't want to drink, don't. I have yet to and I still had fun. There's usually enough going on that you can dance and talk and have fun-and if you are relaxed and chill enough-no one will be able to tell that you haven't had a drop to drink. I promise it works, you just have to let go and allow yourself to have fun.</p>
<p>Thats an interesting name piagetschild, anyways I agree w/every1 else who said you should just ask them to teach you. Most people don't mind teaching card games and the only way you can learn card games is to play them. If you still need to practice or something go on yahoo games and you can learn on that.</p>