My thoughts in no particular order about your daughter’s situation:
- Just because she has expressed a bit of interest in theater and screenwriting right now doesn't mean that you should jump the gun and add a bunch of extra college applications at the last minute.
- Just because she's in ONE school play doesn't mean that she's going to become a theater major.
- She's trying on different hats right now. That is NORMAL!
- Engineering majors are hard. Perhaps taking a theater class in college might be a fun way for her to let off some steam.
- If you don't want to or can't pay for 5-6 years of college, determine what you ARE willing/can pay for. And then communicate that to your daughter. Give her a deadline. "We'll pay for X years of college. If you don't have a degree by then, you are on your own and have to pay for it yourself and you will have to support yourself while doing so."
- Just because she's temporarily expressed interest in ONE humanities subject doesn't mean that she should go to a LAC. Especially since she didn't really like any of the LACs she toured.
- If she's starting to wonder about having picked engineering as a major and isn't sure if she wants to be an engineer when she grows up, then help her find an engineer who's in the line of work that she would be studying and help her set up an informational interview with that person.
- If she starts to talk about wanting to do screen writing or go into theater, etc., then she needs to do an informational interview with somebody who is actually IN that line of work.
- go to Los Angeles and practically half the city (I'm exaggerating, of course) is a screen writer, a wanna be screen writer, an actor, a wanna be actor, or somebody who wants to get their foot in the door in the entertainment industry.
- Go to NYC and the theater business is hard to break into and it can be very competitive. You can find yourself having to work 1-2 other part time jobs in order to make ends meet...and do this for YEARS while you build up your theater resume and eventually land that perfect gig/role. And even then, it's only good for as long as the play/musical is being presented. Once the final curtain closes, then you are unemployed again and you have to start over like every other person. I have a friend who got an MFA in theater lighting design at a midwest university and he's been working in theater productions now for YEARS and it's STILL a challenge for him. He's often had to take gigs on traveling theater shows in order to pay the bills back home. So many months on the road.
- Going to a larger university (not an LAC) might actually be a better option for your daughter. Usually lots of majors to choose from, so if she temporarily changes out of engineering and then changes her mind back to engineering again, she won't have to transfer to another university. Not all LAC's offer engineering as a major.