My daughter has been accepted into unc chapel hill honors college, Clemson honors and engineering, Ohio state honors and engineering and univ of Georgia honors and engineering. She can’t decide where to go. Not 100 percent sure she wants engineering but if she picks chapel hill she can’t go engineering. Maybe she wants to be a vet … Maybe not. Maybe geology - maybe not As parents we are not sure how to guide her. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
If she’s not sure what she wants to do, she’s not at all alone. She also has some wonderful options!
Sit down with her and help her lay out a “spreadsheet” of sorts, listing the schools and their various pros and cons of the schools. Is weather a factor, does she want a “big city” campus (OSU) or a college-town experience (UGA), does she have any desire for a particular part of the country, etc.?
Is there time to revisit schools before May 1st?
Our older daughter was sure she wanted to attend a small liberal arts college and major in environmental science. Things didn’t work out quite the way she had hoped, and she “had” to attend a large university with a scholarship. She did love it from the second day forward, but so many times we have been thankful that fate worked the way it did. Especially when, second semester freshman year, she decided that she wanted to switch her major to engineering. Of all of the schools she applied to, the one she is attending is the best in engineering.
So if there is any chance your daughter wants to pursue engineering, I would only consider schools that offer that.
If she’s not sure what she wants to major in, she should also choose a school that has lots of options.
We have been back.
My older son has a way of making decisions that sounds odd, but it has worked for him. When you are choosing between two things, flip a coin. When more than that, draw names. Now the critical thing here, is that when the “decision” is made by the coin or the draw, for him to personally be aware of his reaction. Some times it felt right and he went with it. Other times, he was disappointed by the “decision” and so would change it to what he had learned was right from this exercise. I don’t know if that would work for me, but it sure works for him!
Tjmom’s son goes about decisions similarly to myself. I like to flip a coin, but make sure to flip it nice and high, almost every time as I watch the coin tumble through the air I found myself hoping for one side or the other. Sometimes you just don’t know that you already know. If that’s makes any sense lol
Tld166 when you say she will not be able to go to engineering school in Chapel Hill it means that one’s she is locked in to the college she is accepted too with no chance of transferring later?
I’m going through the same thing with my daughter. Only wants to be an engineer. Accepted into NC State engineering, BU engineering, Webb, scholarship at Chapel Hill. She loves Carolina - so is facing the same problem. She’s o.k. with math or physics but her love is engineering. Very tense times. Waiting on Harvard/Princeton.