<p>Since admissions decisions are released, let's get to something a little more important-like my lack of a love life ;) . So prom is right around the corner and I don't have a date. That wouldn't have bothered me before, but there's someone I really, really, really want to go with. However, I am fairly sure I am the last person he wants to go with. Or see. Or coexist with.</p>
<p>We were friends, I told him I liked him (it wasn't serious at all but it scared him away) and now I am "blacklisted" by him. I'd rather not go into full details publicly (you can PM me for the full story). And I'm not even sure he wants to go to prom period, but I really like him. To make things worse he is difficult to approach because not only am I socially awkward but he is as well. Also I feel he's way out of my league. He's really intelligent and just rocked this admissions cycle so hard. You know those people you dislike because they're so perfect but you have no legit reason to dislike them so you get mad at yourself instead? He's one of those people. So being my naive self, I thought I could prove that I was close to his level by my ivy acceptance. Lol no, just stop. I haven't told him I got in and he makes it his mission to avoid me (I swear, he HIDES from me). To make matters worse, multiple friends have told me they think he likes me. Uh what?</p>
<p>But everything was just a big misunderstanding and I wish I could tell him! So I am wondering what are some ways I could begin to patch up our broken friendship (I'm taking baby steps right now but I am miserable without him :( ). Let's hope he's not on CC or this will get even more awkward.</p>
<p>From his actions it seems like he doesn’t like you. If he actually does, he should tell you himself. Right now I think it would be best to push this guy out of your thoughts until you get over being “miserable without him.”</p>
<p>I know follow your heart works here. But some people aren’t worth following your heart for, if you catch my drift.</p>
<p>Thanks guys! It’s just that he made it obvious that he liked me before and then he freaked. I mean, he’s not popular and he seemed so outgoing but afterwards I realized he was painfully shy and objectively, not really good looking but I still like him!</p>
<p>You can try to mend your friendship but don’t focus on him and make yourself feel miserable because it’s really not worth your effort. I’m one of those people who has a non existent love life too, and believe me I’ve always wanted a boyfriend but I know that I’m not going to put effort into liking a guy who probably doesn’t like me. In your case, it seemed like maybe he could, but playing it cool (which is best not to scare him away like what happened) is the best thing to do. Just act nonchalant about him. Still be friendly, not forceful or obvious, but cool and calm. 
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<p>He’s probably not the right person for you. If he doesn’t give you the time of day, he’s not worth pining after. Not having a prom date is not a big deal. Go with your friends, some who hopefully don’t have dates too, and have a good time. Both of my sisters left high school without ever going on a date, and one of them is now engaged, the other has a long term boyfriend. Things will work out.</p>
<p>Feel free to PM me, sweetie, if you need anything <3
He’s probably just confused, and I would suggest talking to him</p>
<p>I’m going to accept being foreveralone because while I’ve been called pretty and hit on many times by attractive guys & asked out, I’m a shy recluse that spends most of my time programming (what’s the point of being pretty if you’re too socially awkward to use it). I think I have that popular cheerleader vibe going on but I’m just faking it til I make it because I’m a meek mouse. It’s just that I’m afraid that in college I’m going to encounter so many guys that conform to the “stem guy” stereotype & will not even bother to talk to me or do what this guy did. This guy is a stem guy to the max and he’s the president of a few clubs and he acts so cool around guys. Girls? They don’t really fly near his radar (I’ve told my bff that he’s a 4/10 appearance-wise, but I like him ALOT) and when he talked to me, he was always so nervous. But now he’s been so cold towards me and he won’t fully explain himself. And to add insult to injury he checks me out now! Why? He acts like he hates me but can’t keep his eyes off of me?! I’ve noticed him blatantly stop and turn to me with a shocked expression and one day when he was walking out of a classroom he passed by me and glanced back at me & we made eye contact. I mean, has he never seen a girl in pumps and a skirt before?</p>
<p>High school people are really concerned with fitting in, and a lot of them are pretty similar to each other anyway because they were born in the same place. College students are usually more diverse and at least a little more mature. In my experience (which is limited, but I’m a full-time college student), high school people play more mind games in relationships because they aren’t as good at being direct about their feelings. Dating in high school is awkward because you have to worry about how the potential relationship will work within the established social hierarchy, but college people aren’t quite so wrapped up in everyone else’s business. </p>
<p>Basically, college is a tiny bit closer to this ideal world I imagine in which you can just go up to people you like and tell them so, and for that reason I think it’s a better environment for dating than high school is. You didn’t just miss your once chance to be with your soulmate.</p>
<p>OK I have another issue. So I sent him a letter saying that I don’t want to be his friend. However, he was one of my only viable potential prom dates; the only other one is…his BEST friend. Now, I don’t like his best friend like that, but he’s been there for me & my crush issues since they started with my crush, so he’d know I’m not taking him for a rebound. He even suggested once that we go together as friends, but I had just met him. He knows I’m uncomfortable going alone, but I wouldn’t know how to ask him to go with me as friends. He’s a grade below me & my crush.</p>