<p>So I wasn't going to post this prob of mine here, but I saw a few ppl talk about their guy problems so I thought it was ok, anyway I need opinions.</p>
<p>My problem is that the guy I like (who also sincerely likes me baq) wants to go out with me, but doesn't want to go out with me, because he likes me, but he is not IN LOVE with me. I've already waited for him for 2 yrs, and he wants me to keep on waiting for him until he is ready for the commitment. It's driving me crazy! Now that I'm a junior in high school (he is a freshman in college) I don't think, with colleges in mind, that I can wait for him for much longer. I don't want him to affect my choice in colleges, but I don't know what to do. I know going to a certain college because of a guy is bad. I love him dearly though...and we act like a couple, we just don't have the title of gf & bf.</p>
<p>Any advice?
(sry if i sound whiny or something, this prob is just rly bugging me)</p>
<p>yea that's what I heard before, and I'm trying not to let it take over my life. It's not affecting me academically in high school though...the only thing that could affect my academic life is family matters and my own procrastinating problems ^.^</p>
<p>yea, hopefully this fri we are going to go out and hang...just us. This will kinda be the first time we would be hanging out alone. We usually spend time together through "hang outs" w/ other friends, but he finally came out and said that we can hang out together alone, we don't have to invite any other of our friends...i guess he has been missing me, cause we haven't been hanging out in like 4 weeks cause I have school and he has school and a job.</p>
<p>so you see, we rly dont make our "relationship" get in the way of our top priorities.</p>
<p>you love him dearly though....what does that mean? think about it, all your energy and focus is on a guy you will not have, he has made that pretty clear</p>
<p>"but he finally came out and said that we can hang out together alone"</p>
<p>so he is allowing you to spend time with him, isn't that sweet!!!</p>
<p>read your own posts....what "relationship"</p>
<p>I know I am sounding a bit harsh, but please, go back and read what you wrote...if this was a friend, or your sister, what would you tell her?</p>
<p>and how do you "act like a couple" if you are never alone together to just hang out? he tells you he likes you, but hasn't wanted to be alone, you love him, he likes you, he is allowing you to be alone together, maybe, and you want to know what we think?</p>
<p>argh, please please please, put this person out of your head when looking at schools, I see nothing but heartache</p>
<p>it's not that he hasn't wanted to be alone b4, it's just that it takes him a while to say his feelings and things like that. as far as the "act like a couple" thing gos, it's hard to explain. Even if we are rly never alone together it is still possible to act like a "couple" w/ ppl around (and w/o kissing). and when i mean "relationship" i dnt mean couple wise...just the connection between us, like a relationship can also be, for ex: mother-daughter. that's all. or you can see it as like, me saying we are not a real couple.</p>
<p>eh but you are right about the dont-make-him-a-variable-when-choosing-school thing. and i won't, i promise. there are more fish in the sea right? i just, for the time being i guess, have to try and move on?....it's just rly hard ^.^;;</p>
<p>it is hard, but realize, he has moved on- he is in college- think about this</p>
<p>if you put your energy and emotions into someone is is basically not interested 'in that way", you will miss out- dates for prom, hanging with other guys, seeing that other guys might be interested, because if you are mooning over some guy you may miss someone special</p>
<p>or you may find the HS guys nust not that interesting, which is my Ds problem, she has lots of guy friends, but no one she is intersted in..</p>
<p>its not that he is not interested...it's just he doesnt want to go out or commit right now, he wants me to wait till he is ready to commit. But even though I like him vry much I dnt let that get in the way with my right to open the floor and flirt with other guys. </p>
<p>I have a lot of guy friends (none that im interested in though), but since Im single I know i have the right to see other guys and i make sure i dnt miss the guys who might be interested in me ^.^</p>