Well I’m 22 and I am a nursing student. I started out at a community college and tried to get in the nursing program there but my grades weren’t good enough. So my dad found a nursing school that a lot of people didn’t hear of but it’s accredited. It’s a fast paced college you’re taking like 2 nursing classes a semester! Well to make a long story short in April I failed a nursing class and I failed a pharmacology class last semester that makes 2 classes. In nursing school a C is considers failing. I got the letter in my email and I am SCARED beyond reason about what or how to tell my parents. That school wasn’t a normal college it was so unorganized and the only reason my dad sent me there without not researching it enough was to just get me to be a nurse quick. He liked that the school which is a 2 year you can sit for the boards and get your RN. I just went along with it at the time but didn’t realize how insane this school is. Even my professors at the school said it’s not a school to be in. I had to do 2 clinicals a week and had tests almost every 2 weeks! It was not a normal college and eventually I got overwhelmed and failed. I am now transferring over to adelphi university a 4 year college to continue there. I didn’t get the acceptance letter yet but my plan was to get the acceptance letter and then tell them. But they literally think I’m still going to this nursing school which is not known by many colleges.
I need everyone’s advice. I don’t think they understand how overwhelming this school was and how I think a 4 year college will be better for me and actually have time to study and have breaks. That nursing school was straight the only break I had was Christmas and that was for 2 weeks.
Please help I don’t know what to do! I don’t know if I should wait and then tell them or tell them flat but then they’ll know I lied to them cause I’m giving them the illusion that I am still in that college I was going to tell them next month and say oh I just failed when in reality I was out of that school since late April! I still want to be a nurse I still want to make them proud but that school was not realistic it cost me my grades and my health and I want to tell them so bad but I don’t know the right time.
You need to get brave, and tell your parents what has happened.
Just tell them. They might be upset at first, but they will get over it because they are your parents and they want what is best for you.
You might want to take some time off before you transfer again to a new place. You want to be certain that you really are ready to be in that program. Have you thought about taking a short CNA course, and getting some more experience and earning some money before starting college again? Depending on where you work, your employer might be able to help pay for your eventual RN program.
Tell them now. It isn’t that long since late April. They likely will find out anyway, better to fess up now.
And that’s the scary part is telling them. My dad literally asked me how’s school with that you better be passing face but he doesn’t know during that time also it was so overwhelming I didn’t go to school, I wasn’t eating and I actually went to see a therapist during the time I failed college which was in late April. I don’t know if he’ll be able to understand that a lot of things cost me my failure. I’m still seeing the therapist cause I’m over due for one but just saying dad I have to tell you something is going to be painful. I know I have to its just being “controlled” by parents for so long it’s hard to say how I feel to them. I feel all they care about is the money they paid but I also helped out so they can’t say they did all the payment. But again I’m just honestly nervous I never failed from school before. It’s almost embarrassing
Tell them you are embarrassed and didn’t want to tell them right away. But do it. You need to count on them financially for your next step, I assume.
For some reason when I read your post’s title I immediately thought of Catcher in the Rye. The main character flunked school and underwent an intense emotional saga. That anxiety and feeling of failure can make this point in your life seem catastrophic, but it doesn’t have to seen that way. For Holden, it was a coming-of-age experience (lol, here I go again). There are reasons this choice didn’t work out for you, and it’s really okay. You can learn from that and open yourself to other opportunities. In my opinion, it would make sense to tell your parents the truth. Your truth. Accept whatever reaction they have, and respect yourself and your journey.
Dude. You’re 22. What are your parents going to do, ground you?
It doesn’t sound from your original post like you’ve had a lot of say in your educational journey. You didn’t have good enough CC grades to go to nursing school, so your dad decided you would go to a subpar nursing school. And then you’ve failed out of that.
Either your brain or your heart is against this. I’ve always had amazing grades, but I know that if I went into nursing school, I would likely fail out. 1) I have to work super hard in math and science classes. They don’t come naturally for me. 2) I don’t want to be a nurse. My motivation to work hard just wouldn’t be there.
Tell your parents, but their disappointment and anger isn’t the end of the world, nor is it indicative of your intelligence or future. You need to decide on an educational course of action that is intriguing and exciting for you, so that you are invested. Whatever that course is, it’s not nursing.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey!!