<p>I agree!!! The OP does sound like a very good person. I hope the dad comes around and sees this. This is a well thought out decision. Obviously done by a very mature and intelligent teen.</p>
<p>Thanks imkh my mom says not to worry things will work out, she picks her battles carefully so I know she will get him to be ok but I don’t like when they disagree so I am hoping I can help him see my way before it gets that far. I think it is and I have a lot more on my list with everyone’s help.</p>
<p>I’m going to play devils advocate, since the OP has not answered the question about college rankings. Let’s say for a minute that “dad’s school” is someplace like University of Michigan (my parents attended there, and partied HARD in their day – I attended later and had a totally different, pretty much non-party experience in spite of their urging for me to “have more fun” – so it can be done). Let’s say for a minute that OP’s school is… Spring Arbor University. We really don’t know the whole story here. Dad’s college could be a MUCH more highly respected institution, in which case he at least has a point. And some parents think a kid should attend a college with a lot of good programs (not just one program that the kid THINKS they want to major in) because so many kids switch majors. (I know, OP, you will assure us that this will not be you! But odds are pretty high that it will, and maybe your dad knows this). And the OP may be viewing her dad’s college only through the lens of “dad likes it, and he partied hard” – when there is a lot more to consider. </p>
<p>Dad may also know his daughter well… and know that she is not a risk taker, but has actually benefited from a push out of the nest now and then when growing up. He may feel that she is taking the “safe” route rather than the one that will allow her to stretch her wings and grow more. And maybe he thinks her friends (going to the same college) keep her from expanding her horizons (I love my D’s friends, but do think that going to the same college with many of them would not be a great idea).</p>
<p>Just saying, we have one viewpoint (and only partial info) from a seventeen year old who wants us to take her side…</p>
<p>Intparent ~ neither my dad or I really looked at school ranking probably should of. I was just looking at major I really like and his school and mine have really good OT programs mine is rated higher in that department but over all his school is rated higher over all. I don’t want anyone on my side and against my dad that isn’t what I want, maybe some of my comments made me sound that way and sorry about that, i love my dad a lot otherwise this wont be so hard. Was just hoping to learn from parents here ways to help me figure out best way to have him hear what I want.</p>
<p>I have learned a lot so thanks everyone</p>
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We can’t resist trying to help you figure out what you really want as well. Intparent makes some really good points.</p>
<p>Maybe there is another college that is a compromise between these two?</p>