<p>I have a friend who parties and uses drugs a lot. He drinks way too much, uses pot a lot, smokes cigs, uses shrooms here and there, and has tried cocaine about five times. Anyway, he is a really nice guy but I feel like he is screwing up his life.</p>
<p>I'm not an anti-drug type person. Rather I usually think moderation is the main key. However, this guy is just so caught up in it all. It is almost all he does with his friends other than me. He actually lost his license because he got pulled over drinking and driving. And still it is like he hasn't learned his lesson...</p>
<p>He comes from a pretty normal family. He doesn't seem depressive or anything. He just seems to think life is boring without drugs and alcohol. And he is just carefree I guess. He just graduated by the way, like me. Anyway, he got an apartment with his best friend who does a lot of that stuff. And I just found out that his friend and other friends recently started experimenting with meth?! That drug freaks, freaks me out. </p>
<p>So I really want to help him out but I just don't know if I can since he is always around all these people who do all this stuff. He is a nice guy, but he is living in a fog world and doesn't realize it. Seriously, I think people can get so caught up in things that they forget to live life actually.</p>
<p>Ahhh... I care about this person but I don't know how to encourage him to cut back on it all. If he doesn't I really fear he'll end up with a lot of regrets or worse.</p>
<p>The problem is he has not done anything with significant consequences. Getting his liscenses taken away really did little. So the best thing you can do is to simply talk to him about his habits and be there when and if anything does happen. If he were still in high school I would suggest one of those scared straight things although this is still a possibility if you can get his parents involved.</p>
<p>I don't even know his parents, so I wouldn't dare talk to them about it. He moved out of his house because he was pretty sick of arguing with his mom, I know. I guess I just need to talk to him when I can and try to enourage other things. I wish he had something he was passionate about other than drugs!</p>
<p>Thanks for replying. Even if I don't get any solutions it still feels good to talk to someone about this...</p>
<p>Alright, I don't want to make this another one of my drug rant posts, so I'll keep this as brief as I can. First off, don't do anything rash, such as telling his parents or telling the cops. That's just a bad idea, and will likely make him hate you and be less susceptible to help (if he needs it).</p>
<p>In short, I drink, smoke (pot, cigarettes are nasty), shroom, and have a 4.0 UW. It's not going to mess up your life unless those things become your life. It doesn't help to throw all drugs under one blanket. That said, there are some very bad things out there, coke and meth being two of them. You might want to talk to him about the coke and the meth. There's a great site out there called Erowid that provides an unbiased analysis of any drug you could possibly conceive of. Show him some of the stuff on that site. And also get him to watch Requiem for a Dream.</p>
<p>If you really care about him though, do whatever you can to keep him off of the coke and meth. I know a few cokeheads, and that's bad, bad stuff.</p>
<p>But yeah, Requiem for a Dream scared me and some of my friends straight for a while.</p>
<p>Don't worry; I'm not about to do anything rash. I am not against drugs and going to try to drive anti-drug talk into him.</p>
<p>I just see it all pulling HIM the wrong way. He doesn't balance his life. And he gradually gets into more trouble. He almost lost his license once (his uncle is a lawyer and helped him get a good deal) and he just got pulled over agian from partying. He tells me he wants to quit cigs but I can tell it is too hard for him right now, at least since he is around people who smoke all the time.</p>
<p>As for the harder drugs, like coke or meth, I just don't know. They do freak me out. I might have to check out the requiem of a dream movie. Maybe sometime I can get him to watch it with me. We'll see... Thanks for the ideas!</p>
<p>My ex-best friend (well.. i guess she still is...) is THE druggie. She doesn't get high off pot anymore because it's too 'basic'. She does something called 'oil spots' and mixes it with e and p or something.</p>
<p>Last year, my other friend's mom is a social worker and she brought these drug pamphlets to school to show Hannah (the druggie) and hannah got VERY VERY VERY VERY angry because she believed that she was right and it was her life and that nobody else should interfere.</p>
<p>She thinks that her life can cruise along if she stays stoned for the every minute of her life. She dropped out of school last month which was stupid because she was an A grade CIE student.</p>
<p>She now has a 2 jobs and works quite well.. She earns $12/hr but unfortunatly uses some of the money for drugs..
But she has started to see the importance of money, the value of education and family.
She has already planned on getting an apprenticeship - hairdresser..
I think her future looks ok.</p>
<p>So maybe you should let your friend see for himself at what he's doing in his life. It might work for the better. If you push your friend, he might feel a bit controlled like my friend and get angry..
Good luck</p>
<p>When I bring up the subject, I'm usually careful to be gentle about it and to share my feelings but with no demands. Luckily, this guy doesn't ever get angry about it either. Yet, I know that the only way a person can or will quit something is if he/she really wants to personally. That's why I just wish I could help him want to change, you know...</p>
<p>I have seen that requiem for a dream movie, and it was a stellar though very depressing movie. Maybe sometime I can rent in for my friend and I to watch. We'll see...... Thanks again to everyone for the advice!</p>