High School Dating and the Age Gap Dilemna

<p>the hairy lemon</p>

<p>Wow, I have been reading a ton of replies (not all, i know) that say it’s fine for guys to date down a couple years but weird, creepy or unacceptable for girls to do so… isn’t that kind of sexist? I have no problem with girls dating down a couple years. As many as guys. I’m kind of open with my ideas on dating, and I know a 20 year old girls who is happy and married to a guy in his late 30s and they’re fine. One of my best friends has a boyfriend massively older than her too, and they’re blissfully in love. I think it’s because I live around so many people who have less restrictive ideas on love that I don’t mind age differences as much. Any thoughts…?</p>

<p>A couple years either way is usually fine while in high school. Obviously, opinion will vary person to person, but I don’t see anything wrong with a junior girl dating a freshman guy if she wants to. Maturity varies by person, so it’s not like you need a hard rule for this.</p>

<p>Creepiest = 17 girl + 36 guy. She’s a couple years into adulthood by now, but that’s how it started. “Age is just a number” can only go so far.</p>

<p>I think it can go like this.</p>

<p>Senior Guy + Freshman Girl: A little sketchy, but happens a lot, so I’ma say that it’s the oldest guy a freshman girl can go out with, without it being too weird.
Freshman + 8th grader: The only instance in high school aged kids where you can cross into the middle school boundary without it seeming too weird.
Sophomore in College + Junior in High School: Within these boundaries, I think a high school, college relationship is okay. </p>

<p>The most normal, I would say are probably all the combinations you can get between F,So,J,Se without the F + S one.</p>

<p>Just my opinion.</p>

So I’m a 22 year old male who is college senior and a high school female who is a junior(17) really likes me. We are good friends and hang out almost like we are going out but I can’t tell if I like her the way she likes me, my question is, is the age gap of 5 years and 3 months, so at one point it appears 6 years, and “grade/educational level” to far? I feel like it probably is but I need other peoples opinions

OUstillsucks
Yes, I would wager that it is not a good idea to pursue that relationship. Age, to me, isn’t as important as some people believe it to be, however, you are pretty much a full grown adult who is about to enter the real world, while that girl isn’t even finished with high school yet. Crazier things have happened, I suppose, but in general I don’t think it’s a good idea.

I myself am in the boat that many find themselves in. I’m a senior guy who likes a sophomore girl, and I’m fairly confident that she likes me too. I’m even considering asking her to prom, which is coming up soon. There are a few obvious problems that come with the territory, like her dad being really strict, and not even allowing her to text guys that he doesn’t directly know. We actually talked through an iphone game that we played together all the time (I know it’s kind of silly, but it worked I guess hahahaa). I feel we are around the same maturity level, which is good. We are very different people but we complement each other well, and get along perfectly. So I’m torn on what to do, especially since the end of my senior year is approaching, and yet there still remains these obstacles. I do really like her, but is it even worth it at this point?

Also, I find this funny that this is my first post on CC. I feel like this is a yahoo answers type question lol.
Anyways, it’s out there now.