High School Life & Race and forth

<p>Hello,
I will be freshmen at high school.
I apologize first that I will have wrong in English.
I am Korean and moved from Korea few months.
I basically loved the school and people welcomed me too.
But I do have my self questions about the race.
I never felt the racism or anything just because the color of skin.
Not the fact the color of skins but how people think, act, value themselves.
I am not racist, I am just telling the facts the way I feel,
and maybe way the different people, different race think about different races and others.
The thing I recognized during six months were definitely huge.
The first thing is, people tend to maintain their smile whether they study, talk, or other things. If you see (I will say,,) Asian, there are many just don't have smile on their face than different race.
The fact is the way society just are, in Korea people don't tend or even try to maintain smile on the face(of course they are few or some try to maintain, but I am talking about the most situation.) Or people in Korea NEVER say hi or make ANY eyecontact with stranger, even some with their friends, because how people are crowded in the small country. In class, we don't discuss with our teachers, we just listened to them and just write it down.
Many people have think that Asian are tend to be smart, well, Korean are not smart, but they do study a lot. Like school ends at midnight and just CRAZY math.
The Asian society tends to go along with others in more strong meaning than in here.
Go along with other is like you never say things you are good at,
people never tell what they are good at, or likelihood people think you are bragging (in harsh meaning)
Asian tend to consider a lot what other people think about themselves than other race.
This is just few difference what many people know and what I found out during six months.
There are more difference, but these factors tend to indicate that Asian are not friendly, or don't have self-confident about themselves and much negative.</p>

<p>Since the English is not the first language, of course people(includs me) will be not so comfortable speaking in English, and may tends to only hang out with their same ethnic, because of what they have share much common.</p>

<p>I am not sure that I have right to seperate like I have privilege,
I think there are few.
-who only make with friends with their ethnic
-who blame themselves about the race
-who makes friends with no matter the race difference,</p>

<p>I am not negative with all kind of case but I do wish and wants the third one is the best overall. I just fear that I won't make friend easily because the race is too different, since the it is so true I don't have sense of humor in English.
In my school, more than 95% is White and African American.(please forgive me the way I just classify,,)
During six months, I made pretty much friends no matter the races are, but I didn't felt so close the way just is. And I fear that I will be left out only because of race and that thinks made me more SHY and SHY. I fear college life because I know there will be Korean and I might only make friends with Korean.,,,
I lost 30lb when I came to USA, just because I don't want my weight want to add to my think of race. I work out a lot because I don't want add distracttion.
I try to build my sense of humor, be nice to people.
I have no doubt I became REALLY attractive since losing 30 lb and working a lot.
The fact I think about the race, I want to know what other people(or race,,) think about the different races.</p>

<p>Thank you so much,,,,to read all these,,too selfish think of me.
I hope I can just know the other people think the way I think about the race.
Any advise, experiences, own thoughts are welcome, and again
Thank you so much.</p>

<p>hmmm… how about this? </p>

<p>Do you have any hobbies or likes? Perhaps there is a club you could join that is in that area. I find it is easier to make good friends if you have something in common with them.</p>

<p>You’ll be fine. It’ll take a lot of courage but always smile, be enthusiastic and friendly, and avoid self-segregating yourself (hanging out with only people in your ethnic group).</p>

<p>The best advice I could give would be to play a sport<a href=“or%202%20or%203”>/U</a>. Practice it, get good at it, and bond with your teammates. If you’re respected on the team (being respected doesn’t mean being the best athlete, it means giving maximum effort and being liked), then you’ll instantly have a lot of new friends who’ll have your back.</p>

<p>I personally thank you for both of you ^^;;
Anyone is more welcome TT;;</p>

<p>Get involved in a club that sound like fun. Join sports( cross country is the best!), its a great way to make friends. Just smile, relax, and be confident. Also, giving people an occasional compliment can go a long way. You should be just fine!</p>

<p>Yes, just be nice and try to interact with people. A club or sport would be a good place to make friends.</p>

<p>To be considered friendly and approachable you must smile when you talk to someone, make eye contact, nod, listen and answer appropriately.
People will be polite and forgive you for your accent if you try hard to be friendly.
If you keep eye contact as you speak your self confidence will grow and you will become more comfortable with people.
Americans are used to immigrants and go out of their way to help you if you are friendly and ask for help.</p>

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<p>Thank you, crimsonivy Niiice Batllo ^<em>^ v</em>v
I personally thinking of joining tennis team, and maybe few club.</p>

<p>I’d just take this race thing and run with it and just be known as the cool Asian kid.</p>

<p>Yeah, I agree with what everyone else has said.
Also, your accent and English will get better as you speak and practice more. So, try not to worry about your grammar, accent, whatever, because it’ll become more “American” with time. For instance, we have a lot of Korean kids in my school, and there’s one named Dabin Choi. He started out here a few years ago, and didn’t speak much, and when he did it was quiet/awkward/choppy (he paused a lot). But, he started speaking more, and he’s become so much more fluent!
People will be friendly, but there will also be people who aren’t so friendly. Don’t worry about them! Find those who like you for who you are, and stay with them.</p>

<p>Joining a sport team sounds like sound advice.</p>

<p>Thank you for all of you,ㅠㅠ ^^;
BMan22 Francaisalamatt Halogen
I guess the world is not so awful haha;;</p>