Now that senior year is over I’m just wondering if any of my friends will stay in my life? I know I’ll lose a few people but I’m talking about people that are my best friends…will we still be friends? We always talk about how we want to be friends 10-15 years from now and I truly mean it but I know sometimes things don’t always go as planned… How do I maintain a friendship from long distance? How am I supposed to cope with losing friends, especially my close ones? Thinking about it just makes me want to burst into tears 
Everyone’s experiences will be different. Nobody can guarantee that you will still be friends with the people who are your best friends right now. If you go to the same college, it will be much easier to stay in touch, and you will probably stay pretty close to those people. And you will stay close to many of your others by corresponding regularly by text/email/phone call. And, if you are lucky enough to have some really good friends, when you reunite, it will be like no time has passed at all. You won’t really be able to control how close you stay to your high school friends, but I can almost guarantee that you will find some new friends in college, even if you have to look for them. One of the most important things I learned from my mom is not to fixate on things in the future that you can’t control, and to enjoy the time you have to spend with your friends now. If you are still very concerned about losing your friends, set up a steady form of communication I’m sure you will have a great time at college, and I hope this helped, at least a little bit. 
I have a group of high school friends that I still remain close with—think lunch about 4 times a year 30 years after high school. We all went to different colleges but we got together at holidays and during summer. We visited each other in college and have more history than all of my college friends. We were all bridesmaids at each others’ weddings (mixed in w/ college buds). We celebrate anniversaries and our kids’ milestones. If you want the friendships to last, be the initiator. There is always the friend that is the “glue.” Call together the gathering every semester or so----lunch, overnight at a buddy’s college, etc. You’ll be surprised how good it is to have a familiar ear who gets where you come from.
I am best friends with a girl I met in 8th grade. She still lives in Austin, while I moved to Maine as an adult. She never married. She sends my kids birthday presents every year. She visits us every August. We know we’re always there for each other, whatever happens.
And now my high school class has formed a Facebook group, so a lot of us are in touch. We graduated in 1980! If you want to stay friends with people, you can!
Everyone is different. I never had any close friends during my last two years of high school. I don’t keep close contact with anyone from high school except for one girl. But its different with her since she moved away to another state when we were about 15. But since she has moved we probably message on FB a couple times a year. Relationships fade sometimes. Which is okay. You’ll make new ones along the way. Last semester in college I met two three other girls. We are pretty inseparable right now. I have never been this close with anyone before. I can honestly say I love them and I don’t know what I’d do without them. They say you meet your life long friends in college. In my case I do think its true. I think I’ve found my future bridesmaids
My boyfriend and I have been friends since middle school. Now that we’re back in our hometown after freshman year at different colleges, we keep getting asked if we’re “still dating.” Beat the trend so far!
Skype is very handy.
It’s honestly up to you. I’m guessing you’re able to connect with them via cellphone or social media. You’ll all still have to come home during breaks and if you wanted to could meet up and catch then.
In this day and age, drifting a part is a choice. You seem to want to keep your friends, so don’t let them drift from you.
-From a fellow recently graduated senior.
With the technology that’s available at our fingertips these days, maintaining a long-distance friendship is more likely than its ever been before. Since all of my friends go to different schools across the country, we really depend of things such as group text, social networks, and Faceime to maintain communication. As someone said before, friendships can’t be guaranteed and sometimes people do grow apart…but that’s what holidays, breaks, and vacation is for. If you can, take trips to their school’s, plan breaks, or even wait until the summer. Being apart can sometimes prove to strengthen a friendship. Don’t stress about it. You’ll be fine. Good luck!
They might, it really depends. You’ll probably see them again during school at least during the breaks/summer. As for after that? Unless you end up living in the same area, things will probably get strained. You’ll each have your careers/families and a dearth of time.
Some of them do. I’d say most of them really don’t. The term is kind of skewed these days though. If someone is your Facebook friend and you occasionally comment on each other’s posts, I wouldn’t really consider you to be ‘friends.’ Personally, I don’t really talk to anyone I went to high school with. I’m friends with plenty of them on Facebook though…lol
In high school, we’re at an age where we’re going through lots of physical and emotional changes, and these changes can really affect our relationships with peers. High school is also when issues like cliques, popularity, and bullying can get more intense.
My husband has always put effort into maintaining friendships and that effort has paid off. A few years ago we spent a week at Hilton Head with three women (and their husbands) that he had been friends with since they were all three years old; they celebrated their 70th birthdays that year. His best man in our wedding had been his best friend since junior high school. The groomsmen at our wedding were from nine different states: high school friends, college friends, Marine Corps friends, and more recent city friends. And remember, these friendships span the years before computers, when telephone calls cost by the minute. He just had a long call yesterday with a college friend that we last saw two years ago at their 50th reunion.
I, on the other hand, had 4 sisters that I am very close to so I didn’t put a lot of effort into staying close with friends. I occasionally exchange letters with a few people or see them on FB.
Our son, another only child, seems to take after his father. During breaks from school, he still hangs out with old friends. One of his college roommates flew across country for a long LA weekend. I am pretty sure that if he stays in LA after graduate school, he will have many more visits from his old city friends or his undergraduate college friends.
If your friends are important to you, you CAN keep them but you will need to put some effort into maintaining that relationship.
I’m still in touch with a handful of HS friends after 35 years, a couple of whom weren’t really my closest friends at the time, but they’ve been better about keeping up. Some friendships fade away with distance but can be resuscitated if circumstances bring you back to the same place. I’m closer to my college friends; it seems easier for us to pick up where we left off even if it’s been a while since we last saw each other.
D was really hurt when one of her best friends since first grade went off to college and blew off all of her HS friends. If that happens to you, try not to take it personally. I think some people need physical proximity to maintain friendships and just can’t make the transition to a relationship not dependent on hanging out all the time.
It is really easy to stay in touch these days. But how close you remain will be depends on the amount of effort you put into it. Sometimes people take different paths then meet up again at the end too.
I’m not at the same college as any of my friends, and as a result, I lost contact with the majority of them. I found that transitioning to college without friends was very difficult at first, but I found college to be a fresh start, and eventually learned to branch out to make new friends.
However, this doesn’t mean to spend your first weeks of college texting/Skyping/messaging your high school friends all the time. This is okay occasionally, but the first few weeks are the best/easiest time to make new friends at college.
Good luck!
That is a really nice thing to think about. Good you don’t take it for granted. If you want to stay in touch you can. Taht is usually true even if your pals aren’t too good at it. If you take the lead and you pick up the slack, you can remain close from now onward-for your entire life. Most people lose touch because it becomes less important to both to stay in touch. If one is willing to take the lead and does not become put off when the other strays, then it is probable that you will stay in touch.
In high school, we’re at an age where we’re going through lots of physical and emotional changes, and these changes can really affect our relationships with peers. High school is also when issues like cliques, popularity, and bullying can get more intense.
Yes mine have. At least till now. I pretty much saw them every weekend last semester. Then again, I lived 45 minutes away from my college.
I know this topic has been going on for a while, but I just thought I’d put in my two cents.
I’ll be a senior next year, so I haven’t graduated yet. But I went to a K-8 grade school, and almost everyone went to different high schools. It obviously varies from person to person, but I can say, with my closest friends there is one whom I text every once in a while but don’t meet up with unless it’s by accident, and one who I meet from time to time, and although we’re not as close as we used to be we’re still very much in touch. There are also some other friends that I haven’t heard from since graduation (it helps when you have each other’s cell phone numbers lol), and some that I see every day in high school but I don’t hang out with on my own time. And then there are the people I seem to run into all around town out of pure coincidence (most of whom I like talking to). But honestly, I’m kind of okay with not seeing people. I’ve changed a lot since then (probably more than you’ll change throughout your college life though) and I always feel a pressure to recreate the person I was in 8th grade around my grade school friends. Of course, this is typically the result of getting out of touch. Had I actually kept in touch with people, this wouldn’t have been an issue.
My biggest piece of advice is don’t be the friend who texts someone two years after graduation like “oh my gosh we never talk anymore I hate it”. If you want to stay in touch, you have to put some work into it. Actually, both ends have to put work into it. So if you feel like you’re exhausted from starting all the conversations and getting little interesting response, it’s okay to let go. Always best to focus on the here-and-now anyway.
Okay, that’s my rant. Maybe that made sense. Anywho, good luck