<p>There is no problem with making out with guys; but you need to make sure he likes you for more than that. I have to say ive been guilty of getting into a girl at first just because the kissing/making out/other... was so damn good but then later realizing how much of a mistake i had made because we were so different from each other. If you want this to last, you need to go on a "dry date" - something where you two just talk and have fun(a group get together may make this possible). Either that, or give him a call sometime and talk to him on the phone. </p>
<p>If you hooked up with him the first time you saw him and subsequently every time you have seen him sense, it may be too late to say you are not "easy". But in the end that doesn't really matter because he is easy too. That's such a double standard in society, but I digress.</p>
<p>Making out isn't slutty, and there's nothing wrong with it, even though it might give the wrong impression. Sucking his ****, yeah, that's probably a different story.</p>
<p>If you want to have a relationship, I would advise you not to come out and give him all that relationship crap because you might scare him off, but you could be honest and ask him if he wants to be exclusive with you, or ask him if he will only hook-up with you? i dunno i don't understand boys either...join the club</p>
<p>Just try to talk to him more, plan things to do with him that are more like something an actual couple would do. He'll notice that you're acting different, and if you're good at it, he'll realize that you want to move away from the "hook-up buddy" thing. When that happens, you two should probably discuss it.
As far as seeming slutty goes, given the pace you're going at, I don't think you have to worry about it. You've hung out several times and if you've really only made out, I doubt he'll think you're slutty. Just keep things going slowly and it will seem more relationship like. </p>
<p>Random but- how many guys/girls have all of you hooked up with?</p>
<p>again, talking to the guy about it will only scare him off. Don't discuss it with him...be more subtle; just think of ways to hint at it so he could get the idea. IF all else fails then you can talk to him about it. But don't start by having the relationship talk.</p>
<p>Yea I didn't suggest talking about it right away. Just hint until he notices. If he's not comfortable with having an actual relationship, he'll either bring it up or stop talking to you. Most likely though, if he's fine with it, it will begin to move in that direction. </p>
<p>MY QUESTION: how many people have you (everyone) hooked up with?</p>
<p>I don't think anyone is going to answer that question. (unless they have hooked up with alot of people)...and BTW, I've hooked up with an undisclosed number of girls.</p>
<p>so this is why i hate boys...
so the day he was supposed to call me my best friend called him when she was looking for someone else that was with him. they started talking and she asked him if he had called me yet nad he said, "no but im going to" and she said what are you guys going to do tongiht and he said "i was going to invite her to my friend's little party at her house".
so i was pretty positive that he was going to call, and i was going to politely decline because i didn't want to go hang out with him at a party....BUT HE DIDN'T CALL. now 3 days have passed and he still hasn't called. </p>
<p>And this is why I am feeling slutty....
The first night we met, we hooked up without really talking because all I wanted was to hook up with him because he is really hot. I saw him a couple times after that because he is best friends with my best friend's boyfriend, but, like i said, he would just give me a quick peck and then we would mingle with others or whatever...although it wasn't awkward or anything. The other night when we went out it was more like on a triple date and I picked him up and dropped him off. We talked in hte car and I was enjoyign getting to know him more. So when I dropped him off we got to second base and now I am just feeling stupid because he STILL hasn't called me.
oh and btw...he is 21 and a hot, surfer bum who lives at home....but i realllyyyyyy want him. </p>
<p>and for your question alannan:
umm that's hard. less than 10 people, but i got my first kiss less than 6 months ago and I've never gone past 2nd base, but I've also never had a serious boyfriend.</p>
<p>So he hasn't called in 3 days.. that's not a good sign. It probably means that he just thinks of you as a hook up buddy and will call whenever it suits him. </p>
<p>If I were you and really liked him I would just keep hooking up with him until I got tired of not having an actual relationship. </p>
<p>If hes "really hot", 21, and hooking up with high school girls at parties, chances are he doesn't really care about you. In addition, what kind of loser lives with their parents at age 21? At that point, its time to go to college or get an apartment. I think you have been played, end of story.</p>