<p>My roommate likes to smoke hookah with her friends in my dorm room. She asked once for permission and I felt like I was pressured into saying yes. I know that sounds really stupid but I figured doing her a favor would probably pay off later when I needed a favor in return. But now, she takes it for granted that it's ok to smoke EVERYDAY. It's really getting annoying because our room has turned into some kind of party/smoking lounge everyday. People are in here everyday smoking and socializing and I feel like it's not even my room anymore. If I tell her to stop now, she and her sorority friends will be ****ed off and label me as the uncool roommate that had to ruin the fun. I really don't want to take drastic measures to move out so how do I get her to stop? Lie and say I'm getting bad allergies from the smoke? Tip off the RA (smoking's not allowed in dorms)?</p>
<p>Haha. Ok thank you for the 5 step plan.
It's hard you know? I can confront her and tell her to stop which makes me look like a jerk. I suppose asking her to cutting down to 3 times instead of 7 times a week shouldn't be too unreasonable if it concerns our health. My other option I thought up just now was to pull the fire alarm but that runs the risk of getting me in trouble...</p>
<p>Oh, and the other thing is, should I tell my roommate alone or should I address the issue with her and her friends?</p>
<p>say you have a weak respiratory system or asthma or something. I would probably kick them out after awhile because thats nannoying...</p>
<p>Just tell your roommate. No need to do it while her friends are around.</p>
<p>Talk with your roommate in a low key way. Tell her why it bothers you (you don't want to risk getting caught with it in your room, it aggravates allergies, asthma is flaring up, etc). If she's a friend, she should understand. If it continues after talking with her, bring it up again. If it still continues, let her know that you'll have to take official steps to have it stopped. Let her know that she's putting you in a difficult position.</p>
<p>Just talk to her (not wit her friends). It might be an honest mistake--that is, she really thinks you're okay with it. I don't know what kind of person she is, but in general I think she's as likely to be embarrassed/ashamed that she's been bothering you as she is to think you're uncool. </p>
<p>Besides, if she and her friends think you're "uncool" just because you'd like to have your room be private sometime, then who cares what they think? Because that's a really lame way to think about the world. Why can't they smoke in someone else's room?</p>
<p>Start coughing noticably around her whenever she's smoking...don't exaggerate, but make sure she hears you. then leave the room when it gets really bad, saying it aggravates your asthma. borrow someone's inhaler if necessary (don't use it, just pull it out and say you're going to the bathroom to use it or something). that way, she'll get the hint. then later, when her friends are gone, tell her to cut it down to 2-3 times a week because of your asthma problems. </p>
<p>if that doesn't work, you'll have to be upfront and honest and tell her to stop because you hate it.</p>
<p>Feigning illness or allergies is not necessary at all. Don't make a scene, don't talk to her in front of her friends, and don't tell the RA. Just be straightforward.</p>
<p>"Hey, listen. I know I said I was okay with this whole hookah thing, but could you try not to smoke so often in here? It bothers me - I like being able to chill in here without a million people around / the smoke is a little irritating / the room is starting to smell like smoke all the time / a friend down the hall said they could smell the smoke, and I don't want to risk getting in trouble with the RA. I'm not asking you to stop totally, just cut it back a little."</p>
<p>There's no need to get ridiculous with fake coughing - I doubt I'd put two and two together and, if I did, you'd have to be faking it so hard that it was annoying.</p>
<p>^^perfect solution.</p>
<p>Yeah I know its hard to just tell them but since she's not your friend its actually easier to communicate. I had to tell my roommate to get out of my room several times because she and her friends were drinking into the night (2 in the morning) when I had class the next day at 9. But my roommate was nice and would ask me if her drinking with people were bothering her and I would say yes... lol. I'm sorry you have a horrible roomie. :/</p>
<p>Problem solved. For now anyway.
She dropped her hookah today and the water jar shattered beyond repair.
I feel sorry for her but at least now I won't have to confront her or endure the smoke.
But thanks for the advice everyone. If she gets a new one, I'll use your suggested strategies. :-)</p>