<p>but, I'm wondering what you guys think of sexile, (the combination of sex and exile) which is basically having to abandon your room while your roommate is having sex in the room.</p>
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<p>So anyway…</p>
<p>It probably depends on the situation. I would assume if the other roommate were considerate about it (not randomly kicking out the roommate at 4am the day of a final), then most people probably wouldn’t be too perturbed.</p>
<p>I love how people can talk about drugs and underage drinking all they want, yet the moment the topic turns to sex CC becomes puritanical in nature.</p>
<p>Anyway I would probably find it annoying. I mean if he texted me beforehand and it wasn’t at like 2AM when I really needed to sleep then yeah it’d be fine. If I was sleeping at 2AM and he waltzes in with his girlfriend (or if it’s 2AM and I need to sleep) then I’d be pretty ****ed.</p>
<p>I have never done that to my roommate, so I would expect she not do it to me, either. Thankfully she doesn’t and this is such a non-issue that we haven’t even discussed it.</p>
<p>If it happened to me a year ago, I don’t care since I had plenty of places to crash at. </p>
<p>However, currently I have ZERO friends which equals to ZERO places to crash. My roommate knows he really is my only friend so he doesn’t do that to me. However, if he did I’d be ****ed as hell.</p>
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<p>I think it is incredibly rude when people do this to their roommates without prior warning. I used to think it was rude in general, but now that I’ve been here for a year and it seems that sex is a part of the majority of long term relationships, pretty much only juniors and seniors have singles, and no one is going to pay for a hotel, then its something that needs to be discussed. </p>
<p>The best way to go about it is to plan ahead. Regardless of whether something is going to happen or not, perhaps you could agree that you get the room from 9-1 on friday nights and your roommate will always get it to themselves during the same time slot on saturdays. Come up with some sort of schedule, so that you can plan to be elsewhere when your roommate needs the room. </p>
<p>At the <em>very least</em> insist that your roommate calls you before they lock the door (or if you can’t lock your roommate out, before you but the “secret sexiling symbol” on your whiteboard. haha). And NO is NO. If the roommate is unwilling to be sexiled, then don’t sexile them, please!</p>
<p>As awkward as it might be, come up with a system during the FIRST week of school before any of the stuff causes issues. And try to imagine all possibilities of change for yourself, and account for them. My roommate and I agreed to “absolutely no sexiling under any circumstances” at the beginning of the freshman year, before we were dating anyone. Sure enough, not long before spring finals I get a call asking if she can have the room…at about midnight. I granted it, but I was already very sleep deprived and needless to say upset. So…even if your roommate is letting you have the room they might not be pleased about it, especially when your request is last minute.</p>
<p>I know its impossible to plan steamy situations, but I’d rather be told on Thursday that I’m supposed to be out of the room from 11-3 on friday night only to discover that my roommate and her boyfriend spent that entire time playing chess in the the rec center than to get a call at 10:45 begging me to leave.</p>
<p>Oh, by the way, sexiling doesn’t always imply sex. When my roommate called me last year, that’s not what they were doing, but she still wanted the room to herself. Basically, you should discuss plans regarding locking eachother out regardless of whether either of you have any intentions of being physically involved with someone. Sometimes its nice to have your roommate out of the room just for the sake of a private discussion, but its just as rude to kick them out at the last minute.</p>
<p>…and thats it! (woooo long ranty rant). Hopefully it was someone enlightening.</p>
<p>Dont go to tufts… it is against the rules there.</p>
<p>You could just do it under the covers without locking out your roommate. Your roommate will leave anyway because of the awkwardness, and you technically haven’t forced him/her out.</p>
<p>but what if someone else barges in?</p>
<p>“You could just do it under the covers without locking out your roommate. Your roommate will leave anyway because of the awkwardness, and you technically haven’t forced him/her out.”</p>
<p>I would assume you were joking were it not for the fact that people actually do this all the time. I don’t know if I can think of anything more classless.</p>
<p>above the covers?</p>
<p>in the hall?</p>
<p>Sexile is part of dorm life. If your roommate needs to get their rocks off, don’t be a dick. Leave and go do something else for a while.</p>
<p>Gross, get a hotel room. Clean sheets please.</p>