<p>Hello everyone</p>
<p>My daughter got the acceptance at hotchkiss as well as choate. </p>
<p>She wants to go to Choate and decline hotchkiss. </p>
<p>Just want to know anyone who got accepted at hotchkiss but planning to decline and what the reason is so I can let my daughter know. Personally I was pushing hotchkiss over Choate for my daughter </p>
<p>Thank you everyone</p>
<p>Both are good schools. Kids do seem to know which school suits them better… so please don’t discount your daughter’s “feelings” on the choice! Good luck to you both.</p>
<p>Hi! I’m in the exact same position right now and I really can’t decide. To be honest, I’m leaning a little more towards Choate -mainly because of the location (Hotchkiss seems to be in the middle of nowhere) and Choate seems to have a really relaxed kind of atmosphere. But I love them both, really. Hotchkiss’ campus is BEAUTIFUL.
My Mom is actually more ‘Team Hotchkiss’ though!</p>
<p>Please, please don’t try to push your views of school on your daughter. At this point, with all things FA considered, she ultimately will be the one who has to live that experience, 24-7 not the parents.</p>
<p>And can I be blunt? The students who sometimes have the worst time adjusting - or worse, take drastic steps health wise when depressed (bulimia, suicide, drop-outs, etc.), are those who are pressured by their parents to go to the boarding school of the parent’s choice, not their own.</p>
<p>She has two great choices - and although Hotchkiss is a major rival of my daughter’s - it’s a good school. Its the one in her heart. You should step into the background and let her make the final choice. It’s about fit and which school resonated with her.</p>
<p>Thank you for your comments but let me be blunt as well. I agree with all your comments - let the children decide which school they feel comfortable and they feel that they will fit in well. I am sure there are numerous parents with kids who come back to their parents with saying “how come you didn’t tell me that before???”</p>
<p>Well sometimes their “feeling” is wrong - after all they are just kids - and it is parents duty to help them make the right decision as much as possible. </p>
<p>So comments like let the kids decide where they fit the most is a nice comments but many times not useful and sometime lead to wrong outcome as a duty of a good parents. </p>
<p>I know this is a bad example but I’m wondering what you would say if my (or your kids) daughter said she wants to go to a school where there is a proven track record of drugs and crimes and other bad stuffs what will hugely influence a young kid but she “feels the good fit”</p>
<p>Having the kids to make the right decision themselves is important but lets not forget our duty as parents here…</p>
<p>I’m making the same decision too, but if my mom is leaning, she’s not telling me! I’m not sure if i’m leaning, but I might be leaning towards Choate right now. I think that you should find out why she prefers Choate. Ultimately, she’s the person who has to live on campus for the next 3 or 4 years, so unless FA is an issue, I think it should ultimately be up to her (but it’s your call)</p>
<p>Her “feeling” could be wrong, but as long as she’s informed and aware of everything that the schools have to offer and their personalities, I don’t think she could really be wrong. With all due respect, is Hotchkiss a school that you might have liked to go to? My mom really liked Groton, and she was really upset when I was waitlisted because she liked the school, but she liked it much more than I did.</p>
<p>Well… I don’t think anyone will really know unless they attend the school for at least a year. Revisit day will help but you can only tell so much from one day visit, especially when all school is trying to put on their best behavior to show case their school. That’s why I was hoping that this thread will get some inputs from those who are attending either school…</p>
<p>I got waitlisted at Hotchkiss and accepted at Choate, if it helps…what is your daughter like, personality wise? Both schools seemed similar, but had dome distinct differences. :)</p>
<p>They’re both excelent schools, it’s like choosing between a Mercedes and a Rolls Royce. There is no “wrong” choice.</p>