<p>[Mainly about transferring from a 4-year]
[anyone who has transferred, your insight would be greatly appreciated]</p>
<p>Well? Are you going to:</p>
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<li>Just leave and not tell anyone.</li>
<li>Tell them beforehand and hang out with them a few more times.</li>
<li>Don't tell them before and hang out with them a few more times, then just leave.</li>
<li>Tell them afterwards the semester's over and you just leave.</li>
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<p>How do you feel they'll react? Will it seem like a betrayal or will they accept it and continue to keep in touch? I feel although for a variety of reasons I need to transfer, but I have made so many countless wonderful friends at my school and I'll just miss them all so much. It's hard, but I know this is something I have to do for my professional future and I'll stay strong when the time comes.</p>
<p>For me, it was back when dinosaurs roamed the earth. I had made very close friends at my first school. I told them before I left and “continued to hang out with them”, and not just a few more times. We were close and we stayed close.</p>
<p>My transfer school was reasonably close to my first school and I visited and overnighted with my old friends.</p>
<p>After a while, we lost touch… but that doesn’t have to happen. Now that dinosaurs are gone and you have IM, cell phones (yes, there was a time before cell phones), Facebook and whatever… you might keep in touch longer.</p>
<p>I’ve been having the same dilemma! I have a bunch of close friends here, but I’m definitely going to transfer next year for various reasons. I don’t know when/how to tell them because I don’t want them to not want to hang out with me anymore and then I’d have basically no friends for the rest of the semester. I think I applied to some schools that will notify me before school gets out so I’ll be able to tell them for sure.</p>
<p>I think I’ll have to tell them before I get a decision though because there’s a chance that I won’t find anything out until after the year. I think the best thing to do is to level with them about why you’re transferring and such</p>
<p>Already told them its a possibility. Though honestly, I might end up staying even if I get into the one school I applied to.
I think the friends I made here are much more honest than those in high school. Some of them did things for me that I had never had friends do for me before, they’re really great people.</p>
<p>^I feel the same but at the same time, I feel that my current school is a bad fit and I would like a change of scenery. Not that I wouldn’t mind staying at my current institution but I would not hesitate if I were accepted into one of the two schools I’m applying to.</p>
<p>D1 only told her good friend/roommate that she was applying for a transfer, since she didn’t know if she’d be accepted anywhere and was still trying to give her school a chance. She told her other friends after she was accepted and decided to leave. She told them as soon as she made her decision and still has many friends at her old school that she stays in touch with and visits.</p>