How can I make more friends my Sophomore year in college?

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<p>Hi. College for me is starting in a couple of weeks and I will be moving back not looking forward to old friendships from freshman year. So this is my current situation. </p>

<p>I came to college last year sort of blinded and not knowing all the things I now know and that the college years are the "best years of your life." I'm starting to regret not being more social and that networking follows you wherever you go! </p>

<p>When I first arrived my freshman year I rarely left my dorm to socialize the first couple of weeks. I regret it now because I have a few close friends. I know there's nothing really wrong with that but I get sick of them sometimes, and they get sick of me. Besides, they're really nerdy and not my type altogether, though we do have our "commonalities." </p>

<p>I look at most other people around my dorm and they seem content with the friends/networks they're making; they always seem like they have something to do socially and are not "left in the dark" like I am. </p>

<p>So, I would like to know how I could "branch" out of the "nerds" I met last year and am now sharing an apartment with during my Sophomore year to meet more diverse people that will expand my social horizon and make me more open-minded.</p>

<p>Any tips? Thanks.</p>

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<p>No special formula, just get yourself out there and get involved. Try and make a few contacts in each class and join some campus activities. People are always looking to meet new people and make new friends. Also friendships change from freshman year and shift around during Sophomore year. Be open and friendly and you will do fine.</p>

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<p>Organize a study group for a class; join an activity and volunteer to sit at a table to recruit new members (people will later recognize you and be more friendly); strike up conversations in line at the cafeteria; introduce yourself to people more often and make a real effort to remember their names; be active on Facebook and friend people once you’ve talked to them a couple of times; insert yourself into a group of friends that you think you’d fit in well with by befriending one of them, then sitting with the group at meals; ask the admissions office if you can assist with events for transfer students, then do what you can to make them feel more welcome; and get to know your roommates’ friends as well. There are lots of ways to meet new people. Once you do, remember that friendships are work and if you care about them, you’ll put in the time and effort to keep them healthy.</p>

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<p>I go into much more detail about this in my blog, where I boil down the concept of making more friends to as close to science as it gets. </p>

<p>If you want to make more friends in college. The shortest piece of the puzzle I can share is this:</p>

<p>People make more friends at the rate and speed that they are introduced to new people. </p>

<p>There are two ways to meet new people.</p>

<ol>
<li><p>Introduce yourself to new people
This is what 99% of people tell you to do when you ask them how to make more friends. This works, except that you only have so much time and energy.</p></li>
<li><p>Get introduced to more people by your friends.
This is where the true power of becoming massively popular lies. Of course, this depends on whether you have friends who know a lot of people. </p></li>
</ol>

<p>Making friends with the “right” people can literally land you with like a couple hundred friends over night. I call those people “social connectors”. Social connectors are people who are very well connected with other people. They aren’t typically hard to make friends with - that’s why they have so many friends. Example: If you’re looking to meet more girls, a good social connector to make friends with might be the flamboyant gay guy who’s bbf’s with a million hot girls. </p>

<p>Making friends with social connectors seems obvious, yet no one does it. Notice how many of your own friends are social connectors… </p>

<p>Once you’ve done this, you will become very well known. If you make friends with 5 ordinary people, you have 5 new friends, and they will introduce you to their 5 friends. That’s 25 people.</p>

<p>If you make friends with 5 social connectors, they will introduce you to their 50 friends. That’s 250 people. Seriously that’s no joke.</p>

<p>Once you’ve done this, you can organize some group activites like Lilymoon and Lavendercloud suggest. Presto, you have all the friends you can handle.</p>

<p>I go into severe detail on the science behind how to make more friends in college and climb to the top of your social circle on my blog. </p>

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