<p>Hi I'm going into my sophomore year of school and I want to make new friends. I have several friends but they're not particularly social and sometimes don't act like true friends. I feel like a lot of people got really close with their halls freshman year and this year they arranged their dorm life so that most of them are on the same hall again. Unfortunately freshman year, I had a hall full of an odd assortment of religious girls who didn't want to talk to anyone outside their religion, juniors who got stuck in freshman housing, and basketball players. I tried to hang out on other halls with some of my friends but I would sometimes hear the dreaded phrase "It's a hall thing" referring to an inside joke or an outing. I felt very excluded. How hard is it to make friends sophomore year? Is it hard to break into a group? I even got involved in a bunch of clubs last year but no matter how many friends I made, they all still came from their own groups and didn't seem to want to hang out with me outside of the club meetings. What should I do?</p>
<p>I don’t have much experience with this since I’m an incoming sophomore at a really small school and although I have a lot of friends, I don’t have really any close friends and only one friend I feel like I can fit in with, although I hang out with my cousin sometimes I was lucky enough for my cousin to go to the same school…</p>
<p>Anyways, on to the advice. If your school is big, I think it’s very possible and easy to make new friends as long as you’re not socially awkward, weird, or a jerk. I think making friends in class is the easiest way to getting into a group, if you’re like me you just want to meet everyone in the class, this is what I did and I got to know a lot of people. It is honestly the easiest way of meeting people without having to awkwardly go up to them to just say hi since everyone in your class should be relatively new or you should end up having to ask questions to one another for help every once in a while.</p>
<p>Out of the classroom, you could always go to a residence hall and introduce yourself, I mean if people are nice they will definitely be friends with you, I mean if you’re a really cool person why wouldn’t they, there shouldn’t be a maximum occupancy when it comes to friends, other than that talk to incoming freshman, in high school I know I would talk to plenty of kids in the classes below me, don’t try to aim for one group or another just have to be open.</p>
<p>You could always try to meet students from other colleges surrounding your college. Also, you could find people on campus that have common interests, for example I break, so sometimes I hang out with my dance friends. Usually, if you have a strong common interest someone that should be able to get you into a group of friends.</p>
<p>To be brutally honest, it may be your personality, I don’t personally know you, so I can’t judge, but it is possible, did you have a lot of friends at your high school? Don’t limit yourself and don’t think in the perspective that it would be weird trying to talk to people you’ve seen around, but didn’t really meet in freshman year, people are usually open, so you just have to take the initiative. Sorry, I know you probably wanted more help than I’m giving you, but I don’t really know without more information. I do hope you find friends in college because I think friends are a big part of college, but don’t worry if they’re not your best friends forever, I found that the saying that your friends from college will be your best friends for the rest of your life, not completely true, my friends at home from high school are definitely the friends I think I will keep forever.</p>
<p>The majority of cliques, if you will, form during freshman year. Freshman year is definitely the best/easiest way to make friends, since everyone is new. By the time sophomore year rolls around, most are comfortably settled into cliques and are less likely to go searching for new friends.</p>
<p>That’s not to say that it’s impossible to make friends in sophomore year or later, as I actually made just as many new friends sophomore year as I did freshman year. It’s simply more effort.</p>
<p>However, as the previous poster said, it’s impossible to determine what the best thing for you to do is, since we’re quite literally anonymous people congregating on an internet forum. It’s impossible to determine your personality without talking in depth or meeting in person, so take what anyone says with a grain of salt.</p>
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<p>this thread might help you out.
i’m in the same boat too…</p>