<p>I have realized as of late that I don't have many friends at all. I spend way too much time at home alone, and the more I thought about it, the more I have realized that it is mainly because people tend to annoy me with their stupidity and superficiality. I just can't stand some of these people in school. They are well liked by a lot of people but I find them annoying. I try not to be around them but most of my friends are close friends with them so it's hard to avoid them. How can I make myself look past this? Also, where is a good place to go and meet people to make friends? I prefer quieter settings, but it's harder to talk to people there.</p>
<p>well, if the people are really annoying, you can’t do anything. BUT, you should try to ask people about what they’re passionate about-they may seem stupid with physics, but may be great in literary pursuits.</p>
<p>Yeah, I have the same problem. I just have nothing in common with most of my classmates. Their “passions” include mainly Abercrombie and American Idol. I can’t wait to go to college and meet some more interesting people.</p>
<p>Make yourself less of a prick. Remember that you’re no better than anybody else; you’re as foolishly human as the rest of them, and that’s enough to be friends with them. Because if you have a problem with the rest of the world, the rest of the world is going to continue to have a problem with you. I myself am content to be an antisocial freak (a la chick in The Breakfast Club), but you sound like more of a prick than a freak (you think you’re better than them, you think everyone is stupid, you call them superficial when you’re the one that’s too haughty to get to know them, etc) If you hate everybody, then the other people aren’t the problem - the problem is you. Remember, you DO have the option to be content in being a haughty prick; some people (almost all male) can work it. I happen to know one (a guy, mind you. This role almost never works for girls, ever, and if you’re a girl, you better just eat the humble pie) with a model girlfriend.</p>
<p>Most useful advice? Get them alone. Most people are surprisingly tolerable or docile when you’re alone with them; the problem lies in, “Two men cannot be twice as hungry as one, but they can be ten times as vicious.”</p>
<p>So stuck up.</p>
<p>^ This.</p>
<p>Honestly, everytime I hear someone whining about how they’re ‘too smart’ or ‘too deep’ to associate with anyone I get annoyed, but that your decision. Everytime I hear someone whining about this but they still want to be popular and make friends, I laugh because that’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard in a long time. What are you after: friends or people who follow you around and praise you for being so intellectual? </p>
<p>Take karajanhra’s advice because mine is too caustic to be of any use. But yeah, stop being such a prick or go back to your room.</p>
<p>I was a nerd that had nothing in common with people at my school. I thought that I was too smart for the label zombies. Then I got a life, got over it, and conformed. Guess what? My grades went up. I am doing way better in competitions and ECs. My test scores are incredible (sorry to pump up my ego there…). In fact, I have lost nothing and gained everything. Try it.</p>
<p>Oh, snap, burned by the popular girls.</p>
<p>I initially had the same opinions as the lovely ladies above. But I’m ever so nice and compassionate that I have words of advice.</p>
<ol>
<li>Be an optimist, this is the most important thing to ever do in life.</li>
<li>Do crazy and random things. In sophomore year I jumped from desks and wrote papers in the class they were due during the period they were due. Crazy actions will make you friends fast.</li>
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<p>To karajanhra, I don’t think I’m better than everyone else. I’ve had opportunities to get to know lots of people and the more I’m around them, the more annoyed I get. They ignore what I have to say most of the time and it gets frustrating to get my opinions across when nobody listens. (No I’m not one of those people that complain all the time) I’m sorry I sounded like a prick but high school kids can be so unfitting.</p>
<p>You need to speak up and force what you have to say across. </p>
<p>It’s high school; make people hear you!</p>
<p>You do any sports? Or take some art classes. When you’re in an environment that you’re comfortable with, like maybe a computer programming club or something, then you’re more likely to make friends. And those who are in the same environment as you are more likely to have similar interests and you can therefore relate to them more.</p>
<p>In Psychology it’s called Social Identity Theory, which involves people grouping themselves and seeing anyone outside the group as an enemy or what not. You need to find your own social idendity group because you’re outside the one at school. That’s my take on it.</p>
<p>Definitely stop being a prick.</p>
<p>People WILL ignore you, dismiss your opinions, and steal your ideas for the rest of your life. People don’t magically become nicer and smarter in college. Same kids.</p>
<p>jcsmooth’s got it right. Being optomistic and a crazy muthatrucker will get you attention and some friends. From there, you can develop strong friendships.</p>