<p>doesnt every girl at a college dance just go there to hook up with guys? i danced with this girl for like 50 minutes, got her to come back to my room, and finally got her number at the end of the day. this lead to several dates and the end result was that she said she just wants to be friends...im just confused.... how common do girls go to dances and give their number to guys just to find a friendship?</p>
<p>Girls can go to dances just to have a good time, without having a goal in mind. It’s best to move on and not try to analyze her behavior.</p>
<p>Not very common.</p>
<p>You probably F’ed something up at some point. Happens to the best of us.</p>
<p>Frankly I’m surprised you actually took her from the party back to your room alone with you and nothing happened.</p>
<p>And several dates? I hope you at least kissed her at one point here. Maybe you didn’t make a move so she mentally checked out and moved on. But there’s no sense in trying to be a mind-reader. Just move on.</p>
<p>Yea, it’s common for girls to go to parties just to have fun. In your case, she’s just not that in to you.</p>
<p>I go to hook up! lol!</p>
<p>But that was kinda rude of her imo to go to your room with you, go on a few dates, give you her number, etc and then tell u she just wanted to be friends. she should have been honest about what she wanted from the beginning, so as not to lead you on.</p>
<p>What “college dances” are you talking about? I haven’t been to a school-oriented dance since high school prom.</p>
<p>I’m just going to substitute “college dance” for “club/bar atmosphere” because I have no idea what a “college dance” is. Anyway, girls go out to have fun. That’s it. Don’t overanalyze it. Whether it ends up in a hookup, so be it. Whether it ends up in her just meeting a cool guy to hang out with as friends, that happens too.</p>
<p>And don’t fret, if she went out on dates with you and then after a few said “lets just be friends” then she probably just didn’t ‘click’ with you. If she at least gave you the chance to get to know her and whatnot, that means you were at least a)attractive or/and b)interesting enough to get to know. So try to think of it that way?</p>
<p>Dorms sometimes have dances in the basement or whatever, but those are usually organized by the RA staff and last from like 8-11 pm…more like a 9th grade dance in the cafeteria. </p>
<p>Then, there are frat parties, apartment parties and clubs/bars, which people go to much more freuqently than the above described “college dances” :)</p>
<p>Believe it or not some girls just like to dance! And even the ones that don’t mind hooking up, which this girl sounds like, it doesn’t mean she wants to hook up with just anybody. Apparently she decided she didn’t like you like that. It happens.</p>
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<p>Oh gotcha. I never heard of any dorm dances. But then again, my dorm last year was highly unsociable and none of them even went out.</p>
<p>Hume?</p>
<p>I go to UF and live in Mallory. It’s pretty social there.</p>
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<p>Lolz, no. I lived in Sledd, it was just full of awkward, unsocial human beings. My friend lives in Mallory.</p>
<p>I’d definitely never heard of a “college dance” either. I think Michigan has some kind of a dance type thing between the law school and one of the womens residence halls (the man who built both built the residence hall next to the law school because he wanted his daughter to marry a lawyer, so the dance is sort of a play on that.) But I had that mentioned at orientation and my accepted students tour and have not heard anything about it ever since!</p>
<p>All the “college dances” take place in the basements and feel like 8th grade cafeteria dances. For a real party, go to a frat/apartment party or a club/bar.</p>
<p>She may well have liked you initially but later decided she didn’t like you so much. It wasn’t that she was intentionally leading you on, she just came to the conclusion that she didn’t want to be more than friends with you. That’s why you go on the first few dates, to figure out if you actually like the person.</p>
<p>Believe it or not, some universities have college parties that are large, fun, and not “9th grade style.”</p>
<p>Good thing too — there’s free booze and, unlike a frat party, you don’t have to pay $5 at the door to attend a sausage fest and watch some idiots play beer pong in the corner.</p>
<p>I believe 1200 people attended the last major party here - previous parties this year have had around 700 - 900 throughout the night. How is that type of party going to fit in a frat house?</p>
<p>House parties at apartments are fun (though typically 20-50 people). But let’s not compare college parties to the bar/ club. Different environments - at a bar/ club 1. You burn a hole in your wallet. 2. You’re expected to dress up more. 3. There’s an older crowd. 4. You can’t really cut loose/ go wild as much lest you get thrown out of the establishment. 5. Clubs have ■■■■■■■■ subculture sometimes that you have to pander to and girls can be icier there.</p>
<p>Clubs and bars are fun to go to and have their place, but college parties win when you want to have a free awesome night where you just grab horny coeds and hook up with them.</p>
<p>OP- You did everything you could but in the end you weren’t bf material for her. Hope you had fun,you got some dating experience under your belt, but it’s time to move on. You are the envy of about 5 guys( we all know who they are) on CC who can’t even go up and talk to a girl much less gather digits and go out on a date! Props.</p>