How Do I Deal With My Feuding Divorced Parents?

<p>My Parents have been divorced for quite a while. They don't get along. My father remarried but my mother has told me she will never get married again. When they divorced I was really depressed. My social life went down the drain and is still quite slow. I feel that because my parents feud with each other they constantly neglect me and my siblings. My mother hasn't been paying the child support (yes I live w/ my Father) and know owes 23,000. My father brings the subject up every time I'm in true need for something like clothes, school supplies, etc. I've been asking for a jacket for the past 3 weeks because its 40 degrees outside. I don't have many of the thing teens my age (17) have either. </p>

<p>Sometimes both my parents will ask me impossible questions, like, "Who would you rather live with" or "Who is better". I have no idea how to answer so I just give them the answer they want to hear. Neither of my parents care for my interests in learning. Anything I've done has been achieved by myself. I feel like I could have accomplished so much more had they been more involved. What I'm truly worried about is the future. When I graduate will both my parents be there to congratulate me? When I get married will they both be in the ceremony?</p>

<p>Any help is greatly appreciated</p>

<p>Play the game.</p>

<p>Um first off, call the police on your mother lol. $23,000!? That’s ridiculous. I understand your not wanting to get her in trouble because she gave birth to you but you need a new jacket and that’s ridiculous of her. </p>

<p>Sorry about your parents though. The truth is, parents are idiots. Mine have been divorced for awhile now too. Don’t let their drama hinder your academic success. It’s not worth it.</p>

<p>I think you should tell that to your parents (separately, of course). Tell them how you often feel neglected, how their fighting often gets in the way of your life, and how you don’t want to have to choose between them. Also, to help your financial situation, you could try to get a job-I know it’s hard in this economy, but it might be worth it to apply to a few places.</p>

<p>I know what you are going through right now. My parents got divorced and it was always a constant fight between them. All I can say to you is to use any school resources you have like going and talking to a guidance counselor and I promise they will not share anything you say to them with your parents so that way you can have somebody to talk to about what is going on. Or I am always open to talking to somebody that is going through the same thing I did and also sorrund yourself with a good group of friends that will listen to you or be their for you when you need somebody to talk to.</p>

<p>can you get a social worker involved. 23K is a lot of money not paid in child support.</p>

<p>Don’t expect anything from your parents. Get a job and take on your own financial responsibilities. Never slack off from your education just because they have. I know what it’s like. Learn to appreciate the shady times so the good ones ahead are easier to value</p>

<p>Learn from your parents’ mistakes. Ever since my parents got divorced, I’ve resolved never to rush into a marriage (like they did).</p>