<p>What do you guys do when your parents fight? Sometimes I don't know what to do, and there's this depressing atmosphere in the house. I can never focus on my homework and it just gets really tough.</p>
<p>Go to your local public library. They are usually open till 9 PM.
You could also let your parents know that it’s affecting your studies.</p>
<p>I live in a trailer and have two younger siblings and regularly have two-three younger cousins over. I don’t have to deal with my parents arguing, because they are divorced, but there is a considerable amount of noise going on. Personally I either give up and wake up early or go and sit in my car and do my homework there.</p>
<p>It sometimes isn’t the noise, it’s actually the silence and seeing them ignore each other. I just feel like we’ll never be a happy family again and that’s what gets me down.</p>
<p>I was in your same situation 3-4 years ago. I was in 8th grade at the time so school wasn’t as crucial as it may be for you, but the atmosphere was horrible and I would stay up all night hearing them argue. As cliche as this may sound, it will get better. And if your parents do tell you they are getting a divorce realize two things: 1. It is not your fault, and 2. This is for the better. I was much happier when my parents were separated and then divorced, than I was with them together and arguing. Fast forward to now and life couldn’t be better. They are divorced and our family isn’t the same but we (my siblings and I) are very close to both parents still. As for school. Try listening to music to drown out the atmosphere. Much happier songs helped me. And talk to your parents about how this is affecting your school work.</p>
<p>Thank you, TinnyT. It’s been happening since I was in 7th grade and it stopped abruptly in ninth grade. Like, they were fighting all the time for those 2 years and then I guess they realized how much it would affect me and my school work so I guess they controlled it. They pretended that they were happy and that fooled me into thinking that they finally changed. We were good for 2 more years. Now I’m a junior and all the family problems just accumulated over the years and now it’s bad. Really bad. To the point where I don’t think we’ll ever be a normal family anymore. My parents can’t divorce for reasons I won’t get into… but if they stop loving each other, then it’s just gonna be a quiet and depressing house until I go to college. </p>
<p>But now I’m thinking… should I try to get a counselor involved? I want to talk to my guidance counselor at school because this is really disturbing me emotionally which will affect my grades.</p>
<p>If it is really affecting you then do seek help. A guidance counselor, school psychologist, teacher, principal even. Just get help before your grades begin to really suffer. Since this is junior year, this year is very important, so you should try to stay on a good path.</p>
<p>But honestly, what would they do? They’ll probably just tell me not to quit and then send me on my way. Maybe I’ll feel better for a couple minutes but then I’ll still have to deal with my parents.</p>
<p>As hard as it sounds, you’ll probably just have to deal with it. I’m in a situation very similar to yours and over the years I’ve just learned to tune them out when I’m doing school work or I go to the library. Like TinnyT said, just understand that it’s never your fault that they’re arguing. Counselors have never really done anything in my experience; all they do is help you cope with it, they don’t fix your parents marriage themselves. You could try bringing it up to them that it’s affecting your schoolwork/happiness but usually that works for the moment then the next day they’re at it again.</p>
<p>They know it’s affecting my schoolwork and me emotionally, but they’re just like "theres nothing we can do, we’re sorry you have to go through this but this is what you have to face’’. I guess I’ll talk to my counselor.
Whats weird is that at school, I’ve always been known as that girl who’s always happy and smiling and nothing could ever go wrong for her. But this is my reality. This is what I must go through until I graduate and go to college. And I see all my friends and how happy they are and how they have parents who get along and love each other and then there’s me, the odd one out.</p>
<p>Bump 10char</p>
<p>Put loud music on, stay in my room and convince myself that nothing’s going on.</p>
<p>I’m going through kind of the same situation (except it is partially my fault- people say it never is but this time it really is), and my parents refuse to divorce because they think it’s better for us- both of their parents are divorced and I guess they wish they weren’t. I usually just turn my music up as loud as it goes and dance around while I study, even when they’re being silent towards each other, because it tricks my brain into thinking I’m having a lot of fun and everything’s great.</p>
<p>Those are good ideas. I’ve decided to talk to my guidance counselor at school on Monday. And I found a local church that does free marriage counseling and I want my parents to go to that. </p>
<p>Right now, I feel like I’ll never be happy again. I want to tell my cousin who lives a few hours away but I think she’ll just tell other relatives about it which will do more harm than good. </p>
<p>Just a couple of days ago, my parents and I were laughing together and making jokes. But that feels like a lifetime ago now.</p>
<p>Loud music may be more distracting to your studies than the situation you already have. Multitasking usually doesn’t work well according to a scientific study.</p>
<p>cry…LOL but really they shouldn’t be fighting in front of you. tell them to make their fights more private or something. but crying does always work, fyi</p>
<p>@patton370, awww 
you deserve to go to whatever college you want!</p>
<p>I cry in the bathroom now. Well they’ve stopped fighting. It’s just silence and ignoring now. My dad just sits in his study and my mom is either in the kitchen or the living room. She’ll make coffee and meals for him but that’s the only interaction they have.</p>
<p>How do they expect me to be okay with this? Every time I look at them, I just want to cry and beg them to resolve their issues. I can’t take it anymore! I don’t have anyone else to talk to. I don’t have siblings to comfort me and I don’t want to tell my friends. I just feel so lonely. I was just at a friend’s house working on a project and I didn’t want to go home. Their family was so happy and mine is just broken. It’s just so hard.</p>
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<p>i honestly think that this would work. tell your parents how upset it makes you. your parents really care about you, and i’m sure this would make them stop. you’re their kid, and i doubt they want to be the reason for your unhappiness.</p>
<p>anyways, i’m really sorry that you’re having a hard time! but a lot teenagers have this problem, and your friends could help comfort you. just choose the right ones.</p>
<p>Well I already cried and begged for them to stop fighting last night. My dad tried to get my mom to talk to him but she was too upset. After a while, he gave up. </p>
<p>I’m planning to talk to my guidance counselor tomorrow. And maybe bring up the subject of marriage counseling? I know of a church that does it for free, and I actually emailed them. Am I doing too much or is this okay? I feel like they won’t be able to resolve their issues without professional help, considering they pretended to be all right for 2 years, not even bothering to try to fix those issues back then and move on.</p>
<p>I’ve told one friend a little bit about what’s going on. But this is a really serious fight and I don’t want her to know the details. I don’t want her to judge my parents. They’re nice people…it’s just that they’re behaving like kids right now.</p>
<p>Bump 10char</p>