How do you deal with people constantly asking where you're going to attend college?

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My general strategy when people decide to be snots about my personal choices is to feel sorry for them. Their reaction says a lot more about them than it does about me. My all-time favorite example: 10 years ago when I lost my mom and then grandparents in quick succession, I convinced my dear husband and kids to move to Hawaii for a year. My sister-in-law said, “Wouldn’t anti-depressants be cheaper?” Ten years later, I’m drinking my morning coffee on my lanai while palm trees sway and beautiful birds sing. She’s onto her third marriage and writing snarky things about her step-kids on Facebook.

If you get the feeling someone is trying to push you down, it’s just because they want you to be at their level. If you get the feeling someone is trying to lift you up, it’s just because the want you to be at their level. It’s a great way to figure out who to spend your energy on.

Good luck with your new adventures & aloha! :slight_smile:

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@palm715: I love stories like that! I had to tell you, bc the like button wasn’t adequate.

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Be loud and be proud. I never think, for a second, that folks didn’t research their choices, visit, cull the herd and then celebrate acceptances and wince at denials. Just like us. Wherever you are going is where you are meant to be. I ask because I am genuinely interested. And then I say congratulations!

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Very few people in my area knew of son’s UG. Good friends asked questions. One of his friends applied there the next year. OP, just be prepared to tell people why you like your future school.