<p>"As dumb as this sounds, I'm mostly scared that after they do pay my college tuition, I'll still come out a disappointment. I would like to approach them now about their desires for me and my own choices, but everytime I make a mistake down the road, they yell at me and blame it on something I did years ago."</p>
<p>It doesn't sound dumb. Your fears are understandable.
Unfortunately, you have no control over your parents' beliefs. Their beliefs about your are based on their perspective, and probably have little to do with your behavior. You can't control your parents behavior or beliefs.</p>
<p>You can make your own life and your own path, and you'll be freer to do this if you find ways of funding your dreams yourself.</p>
<p>THe people whom I know who did get their parents to respect their choices tended to be the people who were most proactive about funding their own choices and moving on with their lives without spending lots of time trying to sway their parents beliefs.</p>
<p>For instance, one of my former college students (of immigrant parents, too) wanted to be a journalist, and wanted to go to a college that he -- after lots of research-- felt would best prepare him for a journalism career. His parents threatened to disown him if he went there. He used his own money to apply and his parents stopped speaking to him after he accepted it. He even had to find his own transportation to the college. What his parents said about the college is unprintable on this forum. The only part that I can repeat is that they said that if he went there, he'd "never meet the movers and shakers of the world."</p>
<p>Anyway, he went there (on full merit aid) and became the college's star journalism student in its whole history. During his time there, he also met the U.S. president twice -- at press conferences, including one that was televised. His relatives even saw him on C span asking a question. He also got outstanding, well paid internships with top publications, and graduated to a very well paying job with one of the nation's best newspapers.</p>
<p>By the time he was in his mid 20s, he was working for another top newspaper, and was commuting between New York and chicago and also occasionally doing stories in England.</p>
<p>As for his parents? They hosted his college graduation party, and publcly apologized for trying to prevent his going to that college.</p>
<p>Perhaps that will happen with your parents if you follow your bliss. Even if it doesn't however, you'll be far happier in life if you thoughtfully follow and fund your dreams than if you build your life to try to please your parents.</p>
<p>BTW, my dad was a dentist and immigrant, so I empathize with your situation. My parents wanted me to be a doctor and also to take more math. Despite my mom's (dad died before I got into my career) never liking my career, I still am happy that I followed my dreams. How I dealt with her? When she'd make her statements like, "You should go to law school," I'd just nod, and change the subject. I stopped engaging in debates with her about things like that. Made life a lot happier.</p>