<p>He’s only 14. For boys especially, that is really young and immature. A lot can change. And frankly, many who don’t shine in high school end up shining in life. It sounds like he has great people skills>></p>
<p>I would definitely try to have him evaluated for learning disabilities (tell him it is a helpful way to know his learning style). ADHD/ADD can be diagnosed by questionnaire via primary care if you prefer, but you haven’t mentioned a lot of the symptoms, though focus is certainly an issue.</p>
<p>I don’t know how aware you are of the comparisons you are making between the two brothers. There is nothing at all wrong with community college: that can be a place where a kid grows, thrives and moves on. The career programs are fantastic for some students. And honestly, not everyone has to go to college either.</p>
<p>I would work on your own attitudes and try to value his strengths. It’s surprising what that can do.</p>