<p>I would say don’t try to fight this battle by yourself, you will only end up with a ruined relationship and a son who rebels by studying less. Look for allies at the school, team coaches, even friends. At private schools there are often guided study halls which are great ways to tech study skills. In the publics that tends to carry a stigma and be for real problem children. If private school is an option it might be something to consider, if LPS is the best choice maybe look for an after school/evening program that provides study support. Or even a tutor. Having a prearranged time to just sit down and get the homework done often makes it feel less overwhelming, and lets him feel confident he will still get his free time.</p>
<p>In general I would suggest trying to find him some mentors. Working is a great idea, particularly with adults, real world experience of choices and consequences, good and bad. Also, look to a coach, coaches are often great source of motivation for academic discipline.</p>