<p>Move-in day isn’t hard at all. It’s exciting, you’re around a bunch of new kids, and you have fun. It doesn’t really hit you that you moved out until a few weeks in.</p>
<p>Labchaser’s words of wisdom are important to hear. As you can see from reading all these responses, everyone’s experience is different. Their backgrounds and sensibilities vary. What is most important is to have faith in your ability to get through any difficult times and to be patient with yourself. Also know that if you are feeling lonely and insecure, you aren’t the only one. Alot of the overindulgence the first weeks on campus (over-drinking, etc.) is due to those feelings as well.</p>
<p>My son is now in his junior year of college , but i remember move in day very well. My son was going to a summer program at the school he was going to in the fall so he had to move in three days after he graduated from HS. The school is 6 hours from us and we hit a lot of traffic so we were exhausted just from that. Moving in can be hectic- so expect that. But most schools have a lot to do for the new students moving in both on move in day and the rest of the week. Back to move- in day. I was emotionally drained and i did cry as did my husband and daughter. My son semed ok but as we were leaving he said that he planned on coming home in three days since it was the fourth of july and he had a long weekend coming up-he wasnt allowed to have a car on campus so could we come back and get him? We didnt know what to say because he seemed so upset- so we said we would think about. I went back to the hotel we were staying at and just cried and went to sleep. We called our son the next morning and he said he had made a few friends and had played some frisbee on the main lawn.He also had heard that there was a baseball game planned and a huge July 4th celebration. Two days later he called and said he joined a few things, made some friends and was going to stay. Two years later and he loves going to school. We missed him and he missed us as I am sure you and your family will. But give yourself time and get involved, try to be open to new things. I wish you good luck and stay safe and enjoy your senior year of high school !</p>
<p>My mother, father, one sister (out of two), brother, and his girlfriend, all came to move me in.It was nice to have all of them to help me, even though at my school we can’t move in all the way during orientation and get new rooms when the semester begins. But it wasn’t very emotional. I probably missed my sister the most, but even then, not all that much. I don’t recall ever really missing anyone until at least 2nd semester.</p>
<p>There will probably be tears, but you’ll get over it.</p>
<p>With our DS we moved him in quickly and we quickly got back on the road home. He had a good week in new student orientation, meeting new friends and off campus activities which stressed group building. The transition from hs to college life was seamless for him.</p>
<p>It is time to grow up. Deal with the fact that you can’t live at home forever under mom and dad’s wing. It is a part of life so just ‘suck up it’.</p>
<p>I think the difficulty depends on the person…I mean, for me I don’t think it will be that hard - I have spent plenty of time away from home and I honestly like being away. Just remember that you’re on your way to great things, and that it’s time for you to finally be kicked out of the nest like a baby bird learning to fly, as lame as that simile may be. College is the first step on to the staircase of life…you’re not going to be with your parents forever, and you need to have your own life. Being away/slightly on your own might be weird at first, but you’ll get used to it in no time!</p>
<p>Gonna go through it in a few weeks as a student, and I can’t wait!!! Maybe after that I’ll be singing a different tune, but I kind of doubt it.</p>
<p>pretty sure ill be just fine. ive always done stuff like this alone. im flyin over nad movin in by myself. parents got work. I think it really depends on the person and how they grew up.</p>
<p>I’m not living in the dorms, so I’m not completely in agreement with the argument that, after senior year, everyone feels ready to get completely out. I felt more than ready to graduate, but honestly, living on campus would not be feasible for me (I have a special circumstance). </p>
<p>I am a little tired of the belief that everyone should live on campus, because I don’t legitimately believe that dorm life is right for everyone (and, according to what my parents, both of whom commuted, have told me, it’s not completely necessary to be a fulfilled human being). </p>
<p>At the same time, I believe that the emotional level on move-in day is likely a very personal thing. If you’re the kind of person who’s typically emotional, I’m guessing it’s emotional. My cousin lived on campus, and her move-in day was not emotional, but she, my uncle and my aunt aren’t emotional people, per se. </p>
<p>I think everything involving college is very personal, and it’s hard to give a generalization.</p>
<p>Gosh. You will be wy more ready in a year. My DS was panicked about college a year ahead, but really ready when the time came. We helped him move in, which was a lot of work - getting everything set up. He had a private room, so a little less stressful. The college President made it clear that we were to LEAVE promptly after dinner and we did. I didn’t cry much until I got home, then spent a couple weeks flinging myself on his bed sobbing. About the time I was feeling better, he got really homesick, and we talked some on the phone, but mostly he just had to get over it like I did.
Talk to your parents ahead of time about the expectations for move in day - no crying or carrying on, leaving at a set time, how often you will call home (and you should be the one doing the calling, not them!)
Things really haven’t changed much- 30 years ago when my parents dropped me off all I could think was when will they GO already, and when they did I felt really sad…briefly ;-). College is busy and fun. You’ll love it!</p>
<p>Move in day is the best day possible especially if you’re a guy…</p>
<p>You’ll meet a lot of females very very fast</p>
<p>My D lived at home & commuted for 3 semesters due to a host of reasons (including health & academic). It worked well for all of us, especially our pocketbook. When she transferred, she was happy when we helped her move into her apartment with suitemates. Her brother was also at the same campus, so it was a pretty smooth transition for her. S was very happy about moving into his new dorm & we were pleased for him. It went well for all of us–no tears but lots of excitement and happiness in the air around campus.</p>
<p>You could always hire a moving service to do the college move in, and that’s why they don’t have to come help you move in. Many colleges have a preferred vendor that they work with for moves of your type. Maybe that would take the burden off of them and you would not even have to bring up the emotions that you’re feeling. It is basically a way out!</p>
I would say just go with what you feel. I am very close to my family and move in day was hard for me. I would like to say there were no tears, but I am pretty sure I left a noticeable trail from the car to the apartment and back. The later that night I cried so much in bed that I had to throw my pillow in the dryer the next morning.
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