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<p>Unfortunately it is. This thread was getting interesting. Hopefully most posters are nicer than some people on here.</p>
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good observation, T26E4. Music- if you are 2 yrs out of school, why have you chosen to join this forum, staying up all night arguing with parents? No need to answer-- its a rhetorical question. But you will no doubt respond anyway.</p>
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<p>The only BBA I know of is Bachelor of Bad Attitude.</p>
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<p>You’re the only person arguing. I was having a great time in here discussing this issue with other parents before you barged in.</p>
<p>Again, what is your problem?</p>
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<p>ha! That was actually funny. What degree do you have GA2012MOM?</p>
<p>I have a Bachelor of knowing how to post more than just a wash an repeat of “Have you read the entire thread.”</p>
<p>You aren’t discussing- you are parsing each post and arguing or answering questions with questions and it adds nothing to the discussion. Again, why exactly did someone in their mid 20s and out of school join a college discussion forum. Don’t answer-- just wondering.</p>
<p>I speak with my college D everyday and post college D every few days because we are both busy. I actually make more time to speak with D2. I walk out of meetings to speak with her, which I won’t do as often for D1. My feeling is that relationship should be mutual. If a kid doesn’t want to speak with his/her parents, I am not sure who is missing out more. </p>
<p>I put people on ignore when they keep on repeating themselves.</p>
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<p>All you had to say is you didn’t graduate college. Again, I posted relevant information. If you don’t want to believe me, that’s your choice.</p>
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<p>Thanks oldfort. I have to remember that.</p>
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<p>Totally agree.</p>
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<p>And you’re not? Please stop. You’re very annoying jym626.</p>
<p>It feels like a gnat buzzing around one’s head …</p>
<p>Ad hominems are against the TOS. Please stop dominating the thread with bickering and insults.</p>
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<p>You’re still here? Really?? This thread was starting to go back on track, but you derailed it again. What’s your problem?</p>
<p>Music222 - you are not adding much to this discussion. I am not enjoying your posts. You seem to have your personal agenda. I think it’s best for you to hash it out with your parents. We are not them.</p>
<p>To the OP: I’m sorry that your son hasn’t chosen to communicate with you more often. It’s painful to you, and it feels like ingratitude. Sometimes right before students leave for college for the first time, relations with family can be strained, and that can continue for a while. Some make a big effort to separate from family, including limiting communication. That is hard for parents, especially when they are worried about safety.</p>
<p>My advice would be to give it a couple of weeks, then e-mail/text/phone him and say that you need an “I’m alive” notice weekly – just those two words. Send him a card once a week – something with stories of your own life, interesting newspaper clippings, etc. and no “I miss you” (since he will probably be averse to that). Show him that you have a lot going on in your own life. If he sends the “I’m alive” message, don’t press him for more unless you need an important question answered. If he is nonresponsive (won’t even send an “I’m alive” notice or respond to questions that need answering – like “Do you remember where you put the camera that you borrowed from me?”), then I would suggest one or both of the following:
- E-mail him or text him that because you haven’t heard from him in X weeks and he has not responded to your important question, you are going to call campus security to check on him. They do it all the time, usually in response to parents who haven’t heard from students in much shorter periods of time.
- Let him know that because he is not using his cell phone, you will be replacing it with a land line (if this is even an option in his dorm) and answering machine.</p>
<p>I agree that some parents and children are too connected in college. I know people whose children talk or text several times a day. However, it is entirely reasonable to expect a call or an “I’m alive” e-mail once a week. When I was in college more than a generation ago, I called my parents at least once a week. We didn’t always have anything particular to talk about, but it was important to let them know that I was okay. I still do that, although as they have aged, I have started calling much more often. One day, when I no longer can talk to them, I will be so glad that I spent time (both in person and over the phone) with them.</p>
<p>By the way, this isn’t a male/female thing. In my family, for example, the males are much more likely to call their parents/siblings/children just to say hello. So, don’t let him or anyone else blame it on his gender. :)</p>