<h1>kgal1996, any updates on the situation?</h1>
<p>can you request another room mate for next semester?</p>
<p>Yes, you could say there has been some updates. My roommate now has started basically sleeping 24/7. Monday night, I came back from class at 8:00 and she was in bed, lights off, no movement when I came in. Thursday- I came back from class around 7, she told me there was a club meeting she was going to go to at 8:30 that night… That time came and went, I asked her if she was still going to the meeting, and she said no and went to bed. Last night, I came in after my exam (about 7:30) and she was in bed asleep, lights off and everything. Note my roommate doesn’t have class until 4 today… I came into the room at 2:30 to grab homework and she was still asleep!!! She jolted out of bed and said “I’m not sleeping!” And I said “…Well then what are you doing?” And she said “just relaxing because she doesn’t feel good.”. I fear she is really depressed. I am also a little annoyed- since she sleeps all the time, I never get to be in the room and actually have lights on and make noise and do the things I need to do. The past week I have been going down to the study room at night so I can actually have light to do my homework by! I feel as if I have basically been kicked out of the room. I am trying to talk to the resident director about it tonight. </p>
<p>Please talk to the RD. It does sound like depression and also could be dangerous if she is not regularly testing her sugar etc. Do you know if she wears an insulin pump or uses a pen?</p>
<p>In any event, it’s not fair to you to have no lights on etc. You two have to agree on common hours for things like that. </p>
<p>Diabetic in bed all day - doesn’t sound like a good sign.</p>
<p>You should still be able to turn on your desk lamp/light to do your homework, imo.</p>
<p>Sadly, doesn’t sound like she will last long if she isn’t attending classes. That said, you have a right to use your room, turn on lights, etc. Hope the meeting tonight goes well, but its time to turn up the burners a bit and probably ask for a room change . </p>
<p>It sounds like the school admin still have not done any kind of intervention with her. Oh, well. (Sad.)</p>
<p>You might consider getting an LED headlamp so you can see your way around the room. Actually you can read with them also. I’m not suggesting that she has a right to a dark room at all hours, but it might help you to co-exist.</p>
<p>I’m also concerned about her being in bed all the time. If the school seems uninterested in intervening, it might be worth letting her parents know that she’s in bed most of the time and that you are concerned about her well-being. I don’t think you should involve yourself further than that, but it could be a serious situation brewing and I think her parents might like to know, especially if the school isn’t actively intervening.</p>
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Most roommates have some kind of informal agreement about the hours when lights have to go out and noise has to stop, which would vary with what time their classes start and their respective sleep habits. But expecting a room to be kept dark and silent in the middle of the day is completely unreasonable. If OP’s roommate wants to spend the daylight hours in bed, she can buy herself a sleep mask and earplugs. I don’t know if the roommate actually expects OP to tiptoe around in the dark at all times of the day or OP is just exceedingly accommodating, but this nonsense needs to stop. As Dear Abby used to say, no one can treat you like a doormat if you don’t lie down first!</p>
<p>It appears that my roommate’s health has taken a turn for the worse. I went to bed with a migraine last night and the medicine I took knocked me out, apparently so much that I missed my roommate going to the hospital. I was woken up at midnight by my RA who told my my roommate had come to them feeling very sick, so “they” (guessing EMTs or health services) took my roommates blood pressure and said she needed to go to the hospital. My roommate had told me she was feeling sick last night, and we both went to bed and I figured that was the end of it! My RA told me my roommate would be fine but I have no clue what is going on, if it is a result of her diabetes or random sickness or something worse. We will see if I get any more information today- I am thinking if it is truly not serious, my roommate should be back soon. </p>
<p>I hope your roomie gets the help & intervention she needs via this hospital visit. It could be the needed wake up call for her, her parents, and the school admin.
And I hope your migraine is gone, OP.</p>
<p>The roommate could have insisted that her parents not be told about her hospitalization, so let’s hope she put them in the communications loop and that they intervene (and remove her from the school to take her home and keep closer tabs on her).</p>
<p>The RA broke the rules regarding telling you about the health status of another student.</p>
<p>I doubt that just blood pressure would cause an ER visit, but if she mentioned that she was diabetic and looked like crap, they might have taken her in. Normally, they would ask her if she checked her glucose level and so on.</p>
<p>Hope all ends up well with her. She might be a better candidate for living at home while in college, somewhere closer to her home.</p>
<p>Op,
It was good that she went to the hospital. Diabetics need to go to the hospital because illnesses can be much more serious in a diabetic person. Additionally, her blood sugar might get very out of whack when ill.</p>
<p>BTW, I think that you should turn on the light and do the normal stuff in your room based on a new verbal agreement with your roommate. Say 10 am to 6 pm. The light and the commotion might help her to see that the rest of the world is continuing to go on outside. She can use earplugs and a face mask if necessary, but really, she might just sigh (or groan) and then get out of bed because frankly, she can’t sleep, which is probably good for her anyway.</p>
<p>I don’t think the RA broke the rules by telling you where your room mate was. Telling you they took her blood pressure and sent her to the hospital is simply telling you what they did by routine. The RA told you nothing else. The EMT’s will take everyone’s blood pressure along with other vital signs. This tells you nothing besides where she is, and perhaps she was OK with letting you know that. There is likely more to this that is confidential. They would have checked her blood sugar too, and somewhere they made the decision that she needed medical help.</p>
<p>I hope she will get the help she needs. I also hope that her parents will be involved. </p>
<p>Update?</p>
<p>@kgal1966 I’m wondering how things are going also.</p>
<p>I’m curious too</p>
<p>OP hasn’t checked in to CC since Sept 11, so unfortunately I doubt we’ll hear from her again. </p>
<p>Joined 9/11 . Last cked in 9/19</p>