<p>1) Using a lockbox for food is a good idea, but try not to be overly obvious about it. The problem is one I had with my brother - he was like “we’re a family” so he would just take my stuff without asking. Maybe she thinks “it’s the room’s food” or “this girl is rich, she won’t mind”.
2) The fact is, SHE chose the college, and SHE and HER PARENTS knew what the FA package was. If SHE knew her family couldn’t afford it, what the heck did she expect? I have students who do this every - single - semester. They get cut from their classes, can’t access online materials, and fall behind. Then they usually get reupped, but are at a huge disadvantage.
3) I do agree that if at least she isn’t a druggie, isn’t a drunk, and isn’t entertaining half the campus at night, let alone respecting your sleep schedule, just maybe putting up with her taking your food is a small price to pay.</p>
<p>And Palomina - yes, as far as I know, they do NOT throw you out of the dorms when you first get on the “Bursar’s bad list”. They do technically ban you from classes, but most professors, including me, will “forget” if they see someone who is off their class list for a week or two. Eventually, they would evict the student if it became clear (and it sounds like it could in this case) the student’s family would not pay.</p>
<p>That might be the outcome - it is possible if this girl is all entitled and so on, her family won’t / can’t pay, and she will be thrown out of the dorm. The way they do it where I teach is that they set a time to get back in order, and if they don’t hear from the student at all in that two weeks or so, they will evict from the dorms. If they do hear from the student and have a good understanding of the situation and when the university will be paid, they normally will extend the two week grace period.</p>
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<li>and everybody is all like “she took your FOOD?” - but if she really is clearly poor, ask yourself what it would hurt to share your food with her. If it is costing you 10 bucks per week to buy snacks, and she takes half, that’s fine if you can afford it. If she is taking all your snacks, you tell her that you bought them for yourself, she is welcome to share, but please split them. Maybe you can have two containers where you split the snacks into her pile and your pile.</li>
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<p>I hope something gets better for you. And also, if you <em>do</em> get along with her, did you meet with the RA and her as well, so all three of you can talk things over?</p>