<p>@rhandco - I don’t think my comment was an “us” versus “them” one at all, but rather my honest assessment of what is going on here based on some of OP’s posts which are referenced below. OP is going to school, working part-time and had the generosity of spirit to take her roommate out to a nice dinner. Further OP supplied most of the appliances in the room. And the roommate basically grunts at OP when OP returns to the room and asks how her day went? Sorry, life is not a one way street for anyone. OP needs to set some boundaries to preserve her own self-respect.</p>
<p>" She said that a fridge, microwave, rug, curtains, lamps, Keurig, printer, etc. were essential, and I agreed. However, when I asked how she wanted to split the cost, she told me her family couldn’t afford anything for the room and all she could bring was some dishware. I said this was fine (I wanted to have these things in the dorm for me, too!) so my family and I just bought everything and hauled it to the school (I am out of state, she lives about 40 minutes away)."</p>
<p>“She takes 12 credit hours and won’t get a job even though the university makes it incredible easy for students to work; she sleeps over 12 hours sometimes because she never has class”.</p>
<p>I took her out for a nice dinner and movie (which I payed for with my own money) because I was trying to comfort her. The university later re-instated her in everything so she can now go to class, eat on campus, etc.</p>
<p>“What really finally aggravated me was yesterday I asked her if she wanted to go to the store with me this weekend to get some food. She said no, she was going home, but she would make me a list of things I could get for her (no mention of payment).”</p>
<p>As far as the job thing goes, I think she knows about it. She even came with me when I signed up for it because she said she wanted to get out of the room. So she saw how quick it was, there are signs everywhere saying how much the dining hall jobs pay, people even walk around campus with clipboards having people sign up for jobs!</p>
<p>“My roommate has told me that she thinks it’s unfair the university is expecting them to pay for college when her family obviously cannot afford it. She says she told the financial aid office there is no way her family has this type of money, and she thought it was very unfair when they threatened to kick her out. I guess I am now seeing the big picture of her being entitled. She is also not friendly to me- like I will come in after being gone all day, I will ask her how her day went, and she will say maybe one word and then not ask me anything about my day!”</p>