<p>Ok, so, since I've seen threads similar to this, I thought I'd give it a shot. Just before you guys read this: I'm sorry if this sounds insenstive/prejudiced in any way. That is not my intention.</p>
<p>Problem: Getting a date with asian guys, or just getting to be better friends with asians (male and female) in general.</p>
<p>I'm in AP classes, and there are quite a few asians in these classes, so naturally I have a couple of friends who are asian. I'm far from one of those annoying Anime fangirls/asian wannabes(I hate anime, actually), and I'm perfectly happy with my own ethnicity. It's just I really like these friends just for who they are, and it seems that I tend to find traits I like in asian people. There's also the added factor that I really like asian guys for some reason and would like to date one in the future. </p>
<p>I'd love to be better friends with my asian pals. They'll tell me how funny/nice/hardworking/fun to talk to I am, but I feel like they don't want to be better friends with me simply because I am a loud, outgoing blonde-haired, blue eyed girl who isn't remotely Asian. This makes me sad and paranoid, but I can't help but think this because they sit at ALL asian lunch tables, make comments about their "asianness" all the time and their close friends are asian without exception. They seem to date only asians too, although there are a couple exceptions of asian girls dating white guys.</p>
<p>They'll have some "good" white friends like me, but when it comes to their inner circle it seems like you have to be Chinese. Sometimes they even seem racist. Despite being fluent in English, they speak Chinese to each other front of me, make comments about people in Chinese right in the middle of classes and sometimes make racial comments about how "white people are stupid", or how they'd never date a white girl, etc. etc. </p>
<p>This is all sort of depressing to me, because I really like these friends because they are interesting, intelligent and hard working. I would love to become better friends and maybe even date someone who is asian (almost all the asians I know are Chinese, if that helps) but I can't seem to figure out how to break the "cultural barrier!"</p>
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<p>So, asian guys, what's the deal? Do asian guys really not date white girls? Why not? What do you like/dislike in a white girl (or girls in general)?</p>
<p>Asians in general: Can you help me understand what I have described? Why do all the asians I meet obsess so much over being asian? Why are they so seemily unwilling to be good friends with people outside their race?</p>
<p>Being a European who loves to mingle with everyone regardless of race, speaks a second language too and yet never feels the need to dwell on it/speak it in front of people who don't understand it like my Asian friends do sometimes, I am very confused. I would love some input to help me understand these apparent cultural differences.</p>