<p>go meestasi! i am with you..except that it should be called the i-don't-want-to-be-defined-by-my-race-asians</p>
<p>W T F nba chris is not WHITE?</p>
<p>the i-don't-want-to-be-defined-by-my-race-asians is also know as asian american</p>
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<p>Uh... yeah. What gave you the the idea that I was white?</p>
<p>Another question: How big a role do your parents play in who you date/eventually will marry as far as race will concern?</p>
<p>A lot of people who are asian have told me that their parents forbid them to date white people, especially to their male children. I've also noticed that there are far more asian girl/white guy couples than white girl/asian guy couples. Why is it not the same for females?</p>
<p>If your parents do not want/forbid you to date or marry a non-asian girl ... will you listen to them? Would they disown you if they did? Would you/do you/will you marry or date a non-asian girl anyway?</p>
<p>For example, my parents are by most standards racist. They have told me they would much rather that I marry a white person, preferably a light colored white person (so I can "preserve my light coloring" for my children, ridiculous huh?) and VERY preferably .. a jew (this is a very common feeling in jewish culture.) In general, my parents are positive towards asians and hispanics, but are prejudiced against blacks and arabs, ESPECIALLY devout muslims.</p>
<p>In reality, I will not listen to them and I will marry who I choose. Whether or not this person is white, black, asian, hispanic, arab or jew doesn't matter to me, and I ultimately think it won't matter to my parents either. They have definite preferences, but I think they will accept whoever I end up with in my life as long as they are kind, intelligent and hardworking.</p>
<p>What about in your family?</p>
<p>Heh, my parents have forbidden me to date anyone until I'm done with college. If course, I broke that rule before high school :), but in general they don't care who I date as long as she's intelligent and not a *****. Mostly, asian parents, especially ones that have been assimilated don't care who you marry and don't really try and plan it out, at least in my perspective. Hell, I've never even heard of asian parents talking about marriage. </p>
<p>However, I've only seen a handful of asian-white couples, that are married. I'd be more concenred with the white families who might not like their daughter marrying an asian. </p>
<p>And yes, I would marry a non-asian girl, they wouldn't forbid me, and they would not disown me over something as insignificant as marriage ;).</p>
<p>To be honest, I would personally rather marry someone OUTSIDE my ethncity, or at least culture. I love learning about other people's backgrounds and I think that it would be way more interesting to spend my life with someone who didn't come from the same heritage as I did. (It also expands travel possibilities~! I take my husband/kids to my home country, translate and stay with relatives, he takes us to his country.)</p>
<p>Furthermore, it would be cool for the kids. Not only would they know English, but they'd hopefully learn my language and my husband's language as well. AND they get two cultures instead of one to chose from! (Three actually, including American) What a deal!</p>
<p>Seriously, how come you haven't met a nice asian guy yet? I think that most guys like myself would be lining up to date you, as long as you aren't really ugly (no offense, but we men are shallow creatures).</p>
<p>LOL! I'm not drop dead gorgeous or butt ugly, but I've been described as "cute and very friendly/outgoing" by the opposite sex. So, I wish I knew! @_@;</p>
<p>Well, that's good enough for me. If I lived anywhere near you, I would drive to your hosue right now and ask you out.</p>
<p>bouncechrissy marry me</p>
<p>im dead serious^ lol
if you live in New York PM ME PLZ</p>
<p>^ Asians like that you want to stay the hell away from (I'm assuming your s/n is I rape pillows)</p>
<p>lol jk</p>
<p>Anyway to add to the thread: I think most Asians are just afraid of white girls not liking them more than anything else</p>
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<p>From my experience, it's true with the families forbidding their sons from outmarrying. I have a couple of theories about this.</p>
<p>1) Asian society traditionally values males more than females (this is true for many non-Asian societies as well). As such, the men are seen as the flag-bearers of the family and are responsible for carrying on the bloodline. Therefore, losing a daughter to another race is like losing something that you never had anyway. However, losing a son would be like losing the Crown Jewels.</p>
<p>2) Asian mothers, who are traditionally much more active than Asian fathers in the household, take it as a personal rejection if their sons marry out. This is especially true for immigrant moms who may harbour deep bitterness against white people for ostracizing or isolating them. Plus, with their inability to speak in English, they fear that their already tenuous relationship with their Americanized sons will be furthered weakened.</p>
<p>i dont give a sh** what asian parents say
i am going to marry chrissy . lol</p>
<p>Meestasi/pillows, haha. You guys are cute! </p>
<p>NbaChris: That makes sense .. but ayee. What percentage of asian families do you think are like that? I hope not all of them! X_X;;;</p>
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<p>No, not every. But be aware that there are more than a handful like this.</p>
<p>Interesting. NBAChris, it's fine if you don't feel like responding, but I'm curious. What's your view? Do you support asian/white interracial friendships/marriage? Or do you feel that you'd be happier sticking with asians?</p>
<p>bouncechrissy, </p>
<p>I think you should ask out the next Asian teenager you see. You never realize how awesome Asian guys are until you experience it for yourself. </p>
<p>Ben.</p>