I’m making myself more and more worried with this, so any advice or just “it’ll be okay” would be helpful.
My hs junior D is autistic and has made amazing progress overcoming pretty serious developmental delays. Academically she really shines now, but socially and emotionally she still struggles. She’s been in very supportive school situations since pre-school. Since mid-elementary school she’s almost always been very engaged with her teachers (and support staff) and had good relationships.
Going on a spring break college visit tour brought me to the reality that she now has to communicate with various admissions personnel and professors who don’t know her or know anything about her. For example, when she was a hs freshman, I gave a letter to each of her teachers to introduce her. Now I can’t do that anymore and of course I shouldn’t!
Just a few examples: When making appointments for admission events or asking questions at sessions, she speaks very slowly, quite noticeably so. This is not the case once she is taking a class or gets to know someone a bit better. But first impressions are hard to overcome. She had one interview that went great and I could see why when I went in and met the AO. He was one of those people who is great at putting people at ease. But then another interview and a meeting with a professor did not go so well.
Even emails are challenging. Typically of autistic kids, she tends to be terse in her communications and when I read her emails before she sends them, they can come off a little impersonal and cold. And of course she gets frustrated when I tell her to “just be a little friendlier” (and I’m silly to think that would help!)
Even her handwriting is working against her. It is truly atrocious. One of the schools we visited had to email to get her info again because they couldn’t read it.
I’m just so used to having her in these supportive environments where the teachers know how incredibly far she has come and where she has wonderful relationships with them. I just want these college folks to see the same smart, wonderful, motivated, hard-working girl that I see!
Again, I’m just stepping deeper into worry that she’ll miss opportunities due to hurried but inaccurate first impressions. And I’m not even sure I’m putting the problem across properly, but there must be a few people who know what I mean!