How to make friends after college?

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<p>it's easy to make friends in college. But let's say I didn't make many close ones and college is over. What are some good ways to make friends after college? such as job, church, etc. Any other waysto make good new friends after college?</p>

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<p>at your job</p>

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<p>agreed with mydixiewrecked.</p>

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<p>Work is usually a good start, as are social organizations like church, charities, or clubs of one sort or another.</p>

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<p>sucks if you're atheist...hard to meet women</p>

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<p>By getting involved in things like clubs, community service organizations, team sports, church, etc. That's why people who go through college and don't do any ECs are at a disadvantage when it comes to life after college.</p>

<p>It may be difficult to make friends on the job if you're by far the youngest person there, which often is the case when one is first starting out -- especially if one is in a small organization. Also, even if there are other employees who are around your age, they may not have anything in common with you or they may be involved with their spouse and kids and not have free time to make friends. Kids especially take up a lot of time.</p>

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<p>softball teams</p>

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<p>i would have to agree Mondo and mydixiewrecked too. :D unless... ur a looser so... yea.. kinda sucks. good luck</p>

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<p>I'm worried about the same thing is the OP. Friendship has always been sacred and huge to me, I have my happiest moments with my close friends, I've been BFF's with my BFF since age 4 (even though we live in different states now), and whenever I don't have super tight friends I get depressed really easily. I think if you have close friends you can handle anything.
But..with my personal and career goals I don't think I want kids, and I don't think I want to get married either, or at least not until my mid 30's or so...because I don't want to share my huge personal life decisions and everything...but most adults DO go down that road...so what if I don't relate to anyone as an adult, or what if friendship isn't as big of a deal as when you're a kid?
I'm only 17 and I'm worried about this, what is wrong with me? ;)</p>

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<p>There are plenty of adults who don't have kids. When it comes to making friends as an adult, one tends to have more time for friendships if one doesn't have kids who are in high school or younger. Kids take lots of time.</p>

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<p>But are friendships among single adults as fun and meaningful as friendships when you're a kid???
Thank you...</p>

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<p>^ I’d like to know the answer to that question as well.</p>

<p>And also, if you’ve never experienced any “meaningful/close” friendships during your youth, will you feel the impact of that when you get older?</p>

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<p>You might, yeah. From observation, my mother has a few really good friends who she sees with some regularity. She’s not a very extroverted person though. My dad’s got some fine friends at work, but I don’t see him inviting them over to eat or anything that often. His best friend (from childhood) lives in another country, but when they see each other they’re very talkative.</p>

<p>So I think that as an adult, your new friendships tend to not be as meaningful as when you were a young’n. Your old friends will still be there for you, and of course if you do something where you really bond with your coworker/friend (e.g. serve in the military or police force or fire department etc) then you could have a very strong connection.</p>

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<p>I think all the adults in my family replaced their uber close friends with their spouses when they got married-- they are still friends but their spouse is the only really close friendship anymore.</p>

<p>Although neither of my parents actually have any friends at all. That’s just the rest of my family.</p>

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<p>Always wondered about this…</p>

<p>Same with the idea of finding a spouse if it’s a no go in college. I’d be kind of scared to date someone in the “real world”. Dunno why though.</p>

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<p>here to help…</p>

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<li>Move to an area with many young people. </li>
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<p>In most major cities, there are typically a handful of apartment complexes or housing communities that have lots of single people in their 20-30’s. On a warm sunny day, you will find 15-20 girls sunning themselves by the pool in these places. </p>

<p>They are typically in downtown areas, not the suburbs. The layout of the community is important. You want one that puts you in close quarters with many other people: it’s not some sprawling community where you only see your immediate neighbors. That is where you want to live.
You want to be living in close quarters with young cool people.</p>

<ol>
<li>Sign up for a coed sports team.</li>
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<p>Most cities have a coed sports league. If not, you can find something similar through the YMCA. The teams tend to meet once a week for 6 week seasons. </p>

<p>Let’s examine these three key words here:
Coed…so you will be around the opposite sex
Sports…so you will be around physically active people, who tend to be more social and normal.
Team …so you will be part of a team. The quickest way to build personal bonds with people is to do something as team. Studies have shown this. </p>

<ol>
<li>Go out 3x per week to clubs, parties, bars, or any social atmosphere and meet people.
DO NOT SIT AT HOME …unless you’re inviting people over :)</li>
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<p>there you go!</p>