<p>I know at least one person posts this same post everyday but......I don't have many friends :( </p>
<p>I'm shy and sometimes quiet. This is my 2nd yr at my school. I live on campus. I do have a friend who I eat meals with often. I met her last year. I really don't enjoy hanging out with her too much during my free time. I don't really click with her. I have a roommate who NEVER sleeps here. She only comes to the dorm before her classes and then after they're over she goes to work and I'm guessing she sleeps at home. </p>
<p>I talk to people in class all the time but it never mounts to anything. There is this girl in one class who I always sit next to. She seems nice but she's pretty quiet which it makes it a little hard to talk. But I would like to get to know her to see if she wants to hangout. But every time I talk to her I feel like I'm annoying her.</p>
<p>I have a boyfriend who goes to another uni across the city. I met him in January. We hangout very often. Keeps me busy. But I'm realizing my the majority of my college experience is all him. I don't want to be 30yrs old and looking back and realizing I spent my entire college experience/life with him. I want to look back and see all friendships (which I lack). I'm really worried that I'm going to graduate and have nothing but a degree. </p>
<p>I am still in high school, but I find that I can always meet new friends by joining clubs that I am interested in. Maybe you’ll meet someone who has a lot in common with you. I am typically a very reticent person, but when I am doing something I am passionate about, I will open up and share my thoughts. Perhaps you are the same way. Try to find some clubs on your campus that you enjoy, and go from there.</p>
<p>I go to a small private uni. There are not too many clubs to choose from. None of them really catch my interest. </p>
<p>I would also suggest joining clubs I mean there has to be at least one you have at least a little interest in. If you’re eating alone you can always just sit next to someone else who’s also eating alone unless they’re doing work or something I don’t think they’d mind especially since you’re a girl it easier than I guy doing it. Make study groups with people in your class and if they’re cool hang out with them. Since you said small private uni you’re classes are probably smaller so I don’t think it be weird asking a random Person about hw or something and seeing where that takes you.</p>
<p>Do you go to the gym? Do that, too, to get out and see more people. Take a group exercise class. Are there intramurals? Sign up. Training groups for races? Try that. Can you volunteer? Is there a campus group that promotes volunteering? Did you grow up in a church? Are you interested in politics? Try one of those groups. Do you play an instrument? Are there book clubs? Could you get a little job? </p>
<p>It isn’t easy. And I would be lying if I said this is the last time you will find yourself in this situation. Once you graduate and go out into the real world you could find yourself in this situation again. Think of this as one of the skills you learn in college: learning how to meet people in a new town.</p>
<p>See if your school has a social dancing club of some kind (swing, ballroom, salsa, tango, anything of that sort). </p>
<p>You might not have considered it since you have a boyfriend and people tend to think of partner dancing as a mating activity, but it’s actually a great way for those of us who have a more introverted inclination to make friends. Most of the time you are only interacting with one person at a time, so it doesn’t have all the pressure and anxiety of the typical large party. The social rituals of the classes and dances pretty much ensure that you will meet new people every time you go, but you’re never overwhelmed. Plus it’s fun and it’s good exercise.</p>
<p>I made many great friends through dance, many of them the same sort of shy and quiet and secretly awesome person that you seem to be. It’s one of the best prescriptions I know for the introvert who wants to have a more active social life. Give it a shot!</p>
<p>My classes are pretty small. My math class has about 10 people in it. My largest class probably has about 25 students. I do eat alone in the cafe a few times a week. Sometimes I will see people who know me pass by and we’ll say hi to each other. </p>
<p>But honestly the majority of the people I talk to are guys. Last week one of the guys in my class added me on FB. He sent me a message and after a few minutes of chatting he asked of I had a boyfriend . Obviously he wanted more than friendship. I don’t mind having male friends. But I can just relate to girls more obviously. I haven’t had a good female friend since high school. There is a girl in one of my classes who I would like to try to be friends with. She’s a bit quiet and I think she’s a commuter. Any suggestions? She is a little hard to talk to sometimes. I thinks she is shy. </p>