<p>If I were you-I wouldn’t call it jealousy, instead competition and learn what motives your friend or anyone in that particular category had to do, to make it and you didn’t, I wouldn’t stop trying, just ask him/her what they did and go so forth and so on. Hope that helped. :)>- </p>
<p>Hmm I don’t get jealous often…The rare times the feeling creeps in, I just have to remember how God has always given me what’s best for me. Achievement-wise: I do my best, but if someone else does it better, then good for them. I will always try to improve/push my boundaries, but everyone reaches a limit at some point. Keep a strong focus on your goals & don’t let them be defined by others’. :)</p>
<p>I get jealous way more about how successful someone’s relationship has been vs. test scores/etc, but I just tell myself “Good for them” and try and wish the thought away. If someone’s happy, whether with their relationship or test scores, then good for them. </p>
<p>I had the same problem, I fixed it by becoming my own person and succeeding in things that she couldn’t. I channeled my jealousy into my school work and eventually overtook her in class rank. Let them motivate you to rise to their level. It will take work but trust me it’s worth it.</p>
<p>I’m kind of a laid-back person. I’m one of those annoying girls that is totally into yoga and meditation and spirituality. They help me not only with focusing and motivating myself to work hard, but also to be at peace with who I am and where I am in comparison to others as long as I feel like I’m fulfilling my potential. 
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<p>I’ve never really be jealous per-say, at least in the academic realm, but there has been one or two people that I’m like “■■■, how did they stay up all night until 2 AM, not study, and get a higher grade then me?” So if that’s jealousy, then yes I’ve felt it, but I also recognize that I’ve had moments like that and that you can’t be the best at everything. </p>
<p>I know that life isn’t exactly fair, and that this unfairness is often in favor of others instead of me, but I also have advantages that I didn’t earn. I think being middle class and American are probably the hugest, and a lot of people take those simple advantages for granted because it’s the only life they know. I’m also naturally good at a few things that some people may have tried their whole life to succeed in, and vice versa. I think jealousy often breeds from a feeling of unfairness and entitlement, and as much as both traits are very human, I try to avoid them (especially considering that I’m one of the most privileged people in my family).</p>
<p>Overall, jealousy is always a result of thinking that the grass is always greener on the other side. Nobody has the perfect life. Often on the surface we only see outward or academic accomplishments but everyone has their own problems. The key to avoiding jealousy is stop comparing yourself to others. Harder said than done. But once everything stops becoming a competition, life always gets easier. You are running a race against yourself- not them. When things don’t work out remind yourself: you are meant to be you - all you can ever do is your best. And even when things still don’t work out remember: karma karma karma. </p>
<p>Guys, just remember that above the clouds, the stars are only clearer.</p>
<p>On a different note, has anybody ever experienced jealousy from peers? I know there are a lot of over-achiever CC-ers from my lurking experience. How do you handle it when other people are jealous of you?</p>
<p>Man, I relate to this. All my friends are in the top ten of my class, so it’s very hard to not feel bad about yourself. I just try to remind myself that there are many different types of intelligence and even though they surpass me in certain areas, they ask me for help in others. Like, whenever someone needs help with an essay or a speech, I’m the one they go to. Also keep in mind any special circumstances that may have affected your performance in school. </p>
<p>For me, simply just let your ambitious rage kick in and “internally vent.” You can blow up a couple of things in your mind and eventually let things be. I mean, I take pride on going to a non-selective, nowhere near top-tier school and get to laugh away at people complaining that they are burying themselves in debt from the higher tier schools and see what they study as a quest to nowhere but to increase job chances and salary. Or that they have to stay in school forever. Thanks, engineering at a non-top tier school for putting things into perspective :)</p>
<p>“Other people’s success is not your failure.”
-Christian Borle, Award Winning Actor
(I actually think he was quoting someone else but hey)</p>
<p>I have experience jealousy to a degree, but I have recently let that go in favor of focusing on improving myself. I saw someone saw on here that you shouldn’t out your friends on a pedestal. Amen to that. Everyone has different situations and backgrounds, and you just need to be focused on doing the best you can do for yourself. </p>
<p>I used to be jealous of other people, but now I mainly just appreciate their achievements. I just focus on myself and try to be the best I can be. I find that this mindset has helped me a lot more than when I used to be jealous of other people. </p>
<p>I am jealous of my peers on an almost daily basis, but who can blame me. I’m surrounded by gifted people who are capable of things I can only wish I could do.
Last year, there was a girl in my class whom everyone was jealous of. Perfect grades, body, relationship with friends and boyfriend, was always successful in everything did- you know the type. She was an overachiever like you wouldn’t believe, and the face of our school: being interviewed by the news on a monthly basis. Not only that, but she had starred in films and wanted to create some of her own. Wow, how we all wanted to be her simply for her successes.
One day at school, I found her crying in the restroom because of the high expectations everyone had set for her on a project. I had to admit that once explained, the expectations just couldn’t be met- though I knew she’d try. I’m now friends with her, and still jealous of her in some ways, but we all should remember the pressure people are put under (as we all probably know ourselves).
I just try to not compare myself to others as much as possible, since I am the best version of myself there ever will be.</p>
Maybe I’m too naive or ideal, but I’m a type of person that wishes everyone well and hopes for people to be the best they can be. Whether we like it or not, there is always going to be people smarter than us ans vice versa, we all have our talents. Again it’s only high school, as long as you do your best and are determined to succeed, I believe everything works out
For people like me, jealousy can actually hurt performance because it’s demoralizing. Unfortunately, I’m the kind of person who NEEDS to be the best at something, and uses that as fuel for other things (I know it sounds egotistic, but that’s just a type of person). So I’d suggest finding something you love and get good at it, or (try not to do this) find something you’re good at and try to love it. For example, I used to do math competitions… long story short, I was good enough to qualify for state, not good enough to place. Really frustrating. I found something I was good at, and the energy I got from winning in that area fueled my efforts in others (my math is up to snuff now). Doesn’t have to be academic… if you realize you’re the best at knitting, and the type of person who NEEDS a win every now and then, do competitive knitting. It’ll help you do better in math.