<p>^ You’re really arrogant.</p>
<p>People who are percieved as being arrogant by others do not function well in groups. Their venues for accomplishment are limited to solo activities and to circumstances where higher authority has discounted the value of a group (corporate hatchetman). When they do have to function in a group, the other members of the group sabatoge them and ignore/minimize their contributions. You can " make it" as an arrogant loner. You can make more of it as a brilliant member of a happy or at least functional group.</p>
<p>One type of group incorporates people with disparate but complementary skill sets. The smartest person in a courtroom may be the DNA expert witness. This person is not the leader of that court. If the jury finds him arrogant, they can discount his testimony. Yes they can do that. The deep dark secret of the legal profession is that a jury can do D@#$
near anything with little or no liability for their actions.</p>
<p>Humans are not measly. We, along with other lifeforms, are complex and interesting. I would rather be a man than a chimp. I would rather be a chimp than a worm. I would rather be a worm than a rock.</p>
<p>don’t mention your accomplishments unless asked. in fact, don’t even say anything that cld lead to the topic of accomplishments until you know the person better and you get a good feeling of the relationship.</p>
<p>also, when you correct or question people do be polite and tactful, not act all “*** this is obvious are you dumb” etc</p>
<p>All the advice here on this topic does not really seem to answer the question and I think much of it is incorrect.</p>
<p>If you are not bragging or constantly putting others down, then nobody will even consider you arrogant unless, like stated by pancakes, they are completely stupid or ■■■■■■■■. If they do for merely answering their question, then they can seriously **** off like pancakes says. Trying to come off as very humble when that is not really you does show… it makes you look worse than a bumbling idiot.</p>
<p>Answer things truthfully and merely do not brag about things to put others down. If someone asks you for your GPA or SAT or anything that might make them think they are worse, you answer truthfully.</p>
<p>Q:What is your GPA?
A:4.0 UW and 4.7xxxxx W</p>
<p>Q: What is your SAT score?
A: 2400</p>
<p>Neither answer will make you come off as arrogant. Truthful answers to the question you were asked. You do not have to try and come off as humble in any way.</p>
<p>It is arrogant if this is the case in a question is answered differently and you put a statement to bring others down.</p>
<p>Same question again:</p>
<p>Q:What is your GPA?
A: 4.0UW and higher unweighted, I do not know how these imbeciles manage to have such low ones.</p>
<p>Now the response elicits arrogance. Simply put, to avoid coming off as arrogant, do not put a comment that puts others as detrimental. If they still think you are arrogant when you are not doing such a thing, then simply brush them off. They are wrong, you know they are wrong, just ignore them and their opinions.</p>
<p>I will rate any question and answer truthfully if it is an arrogant response or not in an objective manner.</p>
<p>bump for parody thread</p>
<p>^ use coat hangers.</p>
<p>^ hahahahahahahahaa</p>
<p>Is Poseur a girl?</p>
<p>Being arrogant is stupid. Being confident is good. Step into the real world, you’ll know what I am getting at.</p>
<p>My HS valedictorian was one of the smartest guys I ever met. He had a 4.0 gpa, took over a dozen AP’s, skipped 2 years in Math/sci and was advanced in everything, did research, was president of NHS and other academic clubs, was Captain of the varsity Lax team, also played varsity football, and played 3 instruments. He was talented academically, musically, and athletically. On top of that, he was pretty good looking, very charismatic, and everyone liked him. He got into MIT, princeton and harvard (is at pton currently). He was rarely arrogant, friendly towards everyone, and well-liked throughout the school. he never bragged about his personal accomplishments, but it was a small school, and everyone knew of them. Would you rather be that kind of person, or would you rather be the annoying jackass everyone tries to avoid at parties?</p>
<p>Well see, if you are good at something and know it, you tend to be very mild mannered. I have had the pleasure of knowing some real hardasses (very accomplished powerlifters, grapplers, couple ex-Special forces and recon marines). One thing about them is that they were not the type to brag about what they do or how strong they were, etc. If you have accomplished something, it shows. In one of my favorite westerns, The Magnificent Seven, there is a scene where Horst Bucholz’s character gets drunk and threatens Yul Brynner (who is a seasoned warrior in the film). What does Yul Brynner do? Not even say a word or look at him. Those who have ‘it’ in them conquer before stepping up to the platform, or the battlefield, or whatever.</p>
<p>hey he should totally chill out</p>
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Actually, he should have corrected her … “really” smart. lol.</p>
<p>I’ve always had a tricky time figuring out the difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance tends to carry an “imposed declaration of superiority” whereas confidence is a very “matter-of-fact” sort of trait.</p>
<p>The thing about arrogance is that you can see it in both sides of the coin regarding skill. Sometimes people know they are good at something, and will be arrogant about it (i.e. braggarts). Others are arrogant because they are not as good as they’d like to be, so they feel that putting others down will synthesize a situation where they are viewed as superior (i.e. they’re compensating). </p>
<p>In either case, arrogant people tend to “interject” these statements into conversation without prompting. Using a very CC-relevant example, if you’re talking with someone and they randomly interject their high SAT score even though you never asked them about it directly, it’s usually considered arrogant/boastful. If someone’s basically complimenting themselves all over the place (whether directly or indirectly), it pushes people away.</p>
<p>Someone who is confident can be skilled in something or be very accomplished, but they don’t feel the need to rub it in everyone’s faces. They also understand that to be good at something doesn’t mean everyone else has to be bad. I could be really confident in my math skills, but I’m certainly not going to go around boasting that I’m a mathematical genius when I know that there is a lot out there that I don’t understand. Confidence is very “matter of fact.” I’d say that “confident” people are much more objective than arrogant types.</p>
<p>I used to be pretty arrogant. Whenever I’d meet someone new, I’d always feel this pressure to somehow let them know I was intelligent. Somehow, I had to impress them. There was a craving to be accepted, and I felt that by establishing my mental competence, people would find me more interesting. Unfortunately, this is the worst way to get along with people, and it’s a surefire way to make things harder for yourself. Fishing for praise is a good way to ensure you never get it.</p>
<p>People feel more comfortable praising or accepting someone who is confident over someone who is arrogant, at that. If I compliment someone who’s confident, I know they’ll genuinely appreciate it. If I compliment someone who’s arrogant, I know that I’m basically feeding their ego and telling them something they “already know” or “expect.” As a result, arrogant people who self-compliment are doing so because they aren’t receiving the praise otherwise (as CONFIDENT individuals). It’s a vicious cycle, as you can see.</p>
<p>If you want more valuable friendships and relationships with others, don’t do it based on accomplishment or skill. When you meet someone new, your goal should not be to impress them. It should be to connect with them. What I basically do, now, is to never talk about myself unless asked. If I am meeting someone new, I am either asking questions about them or talking about some external subject. </p>
<p>The less I talk about myself, the less likely I am to be perceived as arrogant. I can still be accomplished. I can still be confident in my skills. I don’t have to go around telling people about any of it. I know I’m not the best out there, no matter what I’ve managed to do with my life. Spend your time getting to know others, and less time talking about yourself.</p>