How to stop judging myself based off of external matters (test scores, achievements)?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>So I just finished my junior year and it basically killed me - it took so much out of me. I am, like many of the people on CC, an overachiever.</p>

<p>Although summer is here, I realize (as I wait for my latest SAT II score) that I judge myself too much off of scores/grades, that I value the respect of my peers more than anything, so much that it is almost certainly unhealthy. I know summer will help me regain my confidence and mental health, but only temporarily.
I want to be in a good place not only in September but throughout the rest of my senior year. And when the time comes, I don't want college rejections from prestigious schools to affect me to the point of utter depression /despair. If I do get accepted into some ivy league college, I don't want to be secretly prideful or pretentious, as I know I will be if I keep up this awful attitude about success and prestigious colleges and intelligence.</p>

<p>So that brings me back to the original question: How do I stop judging myself based on how other people see me? How do I prevent this sinking feeling from getting a bad grade, but at the same time lessen the stupid pride and euphoria that I get from a great grade or a perfect score?</p>

<p>Any advice at all, comments, or even commiseration is welcome. Thanks !</p>

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<p>Used to be the exact resemblance of you. </p>

<p>Education is a progressive discovery of our own ignorance.
Will Durant</p>

<p>In the first place, God made idiots. That was for practice. Then he made school boards.
Mark Twain </p>

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<p>Grade is not everything. Neither is intelligence.</p>

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<p>“base on” not “base off”</p>

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<p>Just don’t care.</p>

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<p>Insecurity kills.</p>

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<p>Try to look at life in a bigger prospective. Life is more then grades. Does it takes good grades to get a family, have a home, travel the world, immerse into different cultures. No. Your grades are a very minor portion of who you are as a person. What counts the most is your determination and your personality as a whole.</p>

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<p>Get addicted to gaming like I did… suddenly everything else seems a whole less important.</p>

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<p>Try to look at life in a bigger prospective. Life is more then grades. Does it takes good grades to get a family, have a home, travel the world, immerse into different cultures. No. Your grades are a very minor portion of who you are as a person. What counts the most is your determination and your personality as a whole.</p>