Hurry up and make a decision

<p>I'm totally bewildered how there are so any people out there that haven't made a decision? Is something going to change between now and tomorrow- NO!!!!! Make decisions and email AO's so they can go to Waitlist </p>

<p>Yes, actually, for some of us quite a lot may change in the next couple of weeks. My son has been so busy with ECs, that we are attending Accepted Student Days over H.S. spring break next week. Apparently, a lot of other people are, too, as some of the days were full when we signed up over a month ago. We are going to 4 OOS schools over 6 days. From previous visits with other children, the Accepted visits are very different than pre-app visits. The kids look with different eyes, the school puts the red carpet out. Also, my kids haven’t visited the schools that are OOS before applying, only “local” info days. I don’t think it’s worth the time and $$ if they don’t get accepted. We will make final decision late next week when we discuss as a family. BTW, I don’t recommend it, and it is not why we are waiting, but some people do wait to see if they can get their top choice to add more money to financial aid offer. The last week April is a big negotiation week. Last, but not least, most Waitlist offers are not given until after May 1st no matter what, because the decision can be made at any time that day.</p>

<p>Actually 3 different schools have told me they want to notify tomorrow, but so many students have not replied. </p>

<p>If the schools had offered EARLIER revisit dates, then perhaps they would have gotten EARLIER responses. One of the schools on our list had a revisit on the 7th of april.</p>

<p>Still after the revisit, you know. It’s not like new info is going to pop up at any moment.</p>

<p>And if the deadline is tomorrow at 5- can you really believe that people don’t know at 8 the eve before. If they are that indecisive maybe none are the right fit</p>

<p>Some are waiting for results of FA appeals and other issues. Schools grant decision extensions if FA offers are revised and/or appealed…it’s a trickle-down effect for everyone. I really don’t think there are many families out there “sitting” on their decisions just for the heck of it. I understand the frustration, but don’t paint everyone with the same brush.</p>

<p>@momof5ct and other parents waiting on wait lists: Have you been communicating with schools? I didn’t know whether I should.</p>

<p>One of our revisit days last year was April 8th or 9th. The next day was spent traveling back to our home state. Spouse that didn’t attend revisits came home from work after 8 pm. We notified schools very late that night via phone and email.</p>

<p>It’s a big decision. Not all families come from a boarding school background or live in states (or countries) where attending such schools is not common. Newly minted teens are trying to make one of the biggest decisions of their young lives. Families are thoughtfully considering all the various possibilities. Huge financial considerations are being pondered. Some families have many similar schools to chose from. Better to take the time given to seriously consider all aspects than respond quickly and regret choices made in haste. </p>

<p>@twinsmama,
If your twins are willing to attend solo, then I’d be on the phone making it VERY clear.</p>

<p>Definitely good to be in touch. They need to know you want in!<br>
@Pops2017. It is a big decision - I agree. But I also think it’s torture to agonize. The school should feel like home. Like when you are house shopping- some feel right and some might be very pretty and spacious, but they just font feel like home </p>

<p>If you need financial aid, it’s such a slim chance, why even worry about it? Just move on to another school. It’s basically not going to happen. </p>

<p>@momof5ct It can be very frustrating especially if your child was only wait listed. It might even make you want to gouge your eyes out when you realize they are holding FA awards at schools like Andover or Choate. Just remember that many of the kids posting here are only 13 years old. @twinsmama You should be on the phone hounding the schools. Be a Pest, Be A Pest to the tune of “Be our Guest”. The one kid here who was take off the wait list was given more time by the two boarding schools so the agony will continue for another week. </p>

<p>“It’s basically not going to happen” is NOT a good excuse to stop worrying. Being waitlisted is like a perpetual discomfort gnawing at you, easier said than done.</p>

<p>@twinsmama I second GMT. Good luck today and in the coming weeks! :)</p>

<p>If possible, I’d have the twins on the phone making it clear that they would attend solo (if this is true, of course).</p>

<p>Bad news for 9th grade boarding girls waiting for Westminster. They aren’t going to Waitlist !</p>

<p>@Momof5ct: Some students can truly feel at home in many schools. Also, some parents are weighing multiple FA awards that can differ tremendously (we had awards ranging from 50-99%). Revisit days may be the first time a student and family step foot on campus. </p>

<p>I do understand the agony of being on the wait list, however, the multitude of factors affecting a BS decision needn’t be so flippantly dismissed. If a student has an offer from only one school and it includes all the needed FA, then yes, the decision is pretty easy. Otherwise, it may not be so simple.</p>

<p>Good luck to all who are still waiting to hear good news!</p>

<p>It’s rarely a simple decision. These kids have put so much thought, time and effort into the process, that they are allowed to put an equal amount into their final choice. We notified all of our schools early on, except for the two that were the top choices. For those, we had to wait to revisit (as late at 4/7!) and then talk to as many people as possible. We had all hoped that revisits would make the decision easier, but it only complicated things more! Anyway, we told Cate and Milton of our choice yesterday, and I don’t feel that was too late. It was just the amount of time that my daughter needed, and it was firmly within the confines of what was allowed.</p>

<p>We’re waiting for our Sons’ 1st choice school to send their final official FA offer. (for some reason they needed a copy of our tax return) This should be out next Wed 4/16/14. This weekend we have 1 last accepted student reception. If there are no surprises from 1st choice school, then by next Thursday 4/17/14 the hammer is coming down and the whip will be cracking … with nothing but love, of course. :-)</p>