<p>I see that the name of this forum is "college life" and that is precisely why I am writing this message here, because I am not interested in "college life", at least as I understand it: parties, drugs, random sex, beer, football games, cliques, social activities, etc. I want to transfer to a school where the above behavior and activities are almost non-existent and where people like myself won't stand out in a negative manner for not engaging in them. I just want to wake up in the morning, go to class, and then go home, like having a job.</p>
<p>I already considered transferring to a community college, but from the research I have done so far it appears that the classes at the community colleges around here are not as diverse and apparently not as intense as the classes at the school I currently attend. I also considered enrolling at an online university, but obviously and unfortunately nobody is going to take a degree from an online university seriously. I considered the local state university, but it appears that the college life there is worse (this depends on your point of view, but from my point of view it certainly is worse) than the college life at the school I currently attend. Transferring to a prestigious university, although a long shot and not a very realistic option, might not solve the problem, since smart people also like to socialize and party.</p>
<p>Either just stay in your dorm and forget partying, or attend a commuter school. Those are the only options you have other than going to community college.</p>
<p>By the way, why would you NOT want to experience college life? I can’t wait to graduate this year from HS and begin college!</p>
<p>parties = not really
drugs = absolutely not
random sex = disgusting
beer = not for me
football games = boring unless marching band field show is decent
cliques = no time to worry over those
social activities = easing myself into them as of now</p>
<p>You’re not the only one :p. I’d say give it at least an entire semester and join 1-2 organizations first.</p>
<p>Wow man. I am SO glad you posted this. You are EXACTLY like me. Where do you go?
The problem is, almost every university is like this. The kids come, get ‘free’, and think they can do whatever. That is the lesson of freshman year living in dorms, IMO. You learn that doing WHATEVER you want WHENEVER isn’t feasible. You, like I, probably had plenty of freedom at home, and like regular schedules. I don’t drink or party either. Luckily, this university is only 30 minutes from my house, so I go home on weekends so I don’t have to deal with the real craziness. I’m seriously thinking about commuting next semester already, if not sooner.
But seriously, you are EXACTLY like me. If we roomed together people wouldn’t even know we existed. haha. Oh, that’s another thing for me, I HATE the lack of privacy. I can deal with lack of luxury amentities, but NOT constant invasion of privacy.</p>
<p>I’m the same way… and I go to a large state school. If everyone you talk to seems to react negatively to you because of that you’re not finding the right people. It might be easier for you if you can commute since you won’t have to deal with people in the dorms coming in late at night drunk.</p>
<p>The thing that’s holding ME back from just up and leaving the dorms is that i’m rooming with my HS friend. Also, everyone on my hall knows me and I talk to them, I just don’t like hanging out with them a lot because I don’t relate to them much. But I feel like just up and leaving would create an awkward situation. You know, the whole being bombarded with ‘why you leaving?’ thing. They already bombard me with questions about why I go home on the weekends. </p>
<p>Maybe OP somewhat feels the same? What is keeping you from just leaving?</p>
<p>I go to a small college, and we do NOTHING here. Nothing fun, nothing bad, nothing. I dread weekends because I have SO much free time and nothing to do… I would give ANYTHING to have something to do, or people to do it with.</p>
<p>hmmm. my college life doesn’t consist of parties, drugs, random sex, beer, football games, cliques at all and I’m having more fun than I ever have had before. Just find people with similar interests and you’ll be set…the highlights of my college life so far aren’t about getting wasted, but doing things like playing smash bros with everyone down the hall for hours, or going backpacking w/ friends. I live in a sub-free hall so I know lots of people who want to have a good time without getting wasted. If that’s a possibility for you I would highly consider it.</p>
<p>I went to the University of Utah for 3 semesters. It has the highest working rate of any school in the country (that or it’s second to CalTech, can’t remember), so everyone comes in for classes and immediately leaves. It’s basically a 27k-student community college that grants 4-year and graduate degrees. I lived at home and commuted ~45 minutes every day, and even then I was able to find intelligent people I could relate to. If you want to just treat college as another “get in, get out, get on with life” thing like HS, I’d definitely recommend Utah. I could go for days without talking to a single person (save simple courtesies to the bus driver and the reserve desk people) despite being outside the house for 7 hours.</p>
<p>I would do some more introspection though and decide if that’s precisely what you want to do. I thought it was in my best interest to live that sort of lifestyle (and that was a large factor in my choosing Utah in the first place) but eventually I found that I needed something more and decided to transfer (ironically enough, to a school that is famous for the things you describe; but even here I find a center). There are intermediate degrees to the college experience though; you can choose to have intelligent discussions, play sports for fun, or participate in other (small, non-awkward) group activities that don’t necessarily involve any of the things you describe. </p>
<p>Ask yourself if you don’t like most colleges because of your construction of this stereotype rather than any legitimate lack of interesting things there. Look in the right places and you’re bound to find something.</p>
<p>Also: don’t slam drugs unless you’ve tried them (pun not intended).</p>
<p>Why do you feel the need to find an antisocial school? Who cares what other people do, seriously? If you want privacy and quiet, find a location on or near campus that can offer such an environment for you…and seriously consider an apartment. What you’re basically saying is you don’t want to hang out with the immature freshmen swarming your area, so don’t. Find out where the serious juniors and/or seniors live and join that crowd.</p>
<p>Also, try to find a decent job with long hours, so you’re busy and have an excuse when your immature first year friends want to hang out. That should work every time. ;P</p>
<p>And there’s no need to be a hermit, either. If you can find your kind of people to hang out with, life can be fun in groups.</p>
<p>Just find friends that don’t like to drink or party. I have yet to drink or smoke or go to a party since I’ve been on campus, and I have a decent amount of friends who don’t do anything either. If they do, I just go hang out with another group of people that don’t happen to be partying on the same night. </p>
<p>Not EVERYONE is partying there. You just have to find your niche of non-partiers. I would not recommend going to a CC or a commuter school. Do you really want to live on your own or back with your parents?</p>
<p>College life is a lot more than partying, drugs, and sex. I’m not really into any of that either - but I go to a school where people do party (usually just on the weekends, since people are serious about styuding). I’m pretty lucky that my freshman hall isn’t filled with a bunch of crazy partiers, but even if it was, I’ve learned to be okay with it.</p>
<p>At first, I thought that I was the only person on my hall who wasn’t a partier. The second night of school, half of the hall ran off to an off-campus frat party. I was never much of a partier in high school, but I did give some frat parties here a try. It’s not really for me, even if I now realize that you can go to parties and not get drunk/have sex. In the beginning, a lot of people are giving things a try - like partying. It will eventually calm down (hopefully). But, now that I’ve been here a month, I’ve discovered a group of friends who are more interested in activities other than drinking.</p>
<p>My best advice is to join an organization or sports team. I’m on a club sports team full of some really nice people - my practices are five days a week. So, in the time I’m not practicing, I’m either in class or studying - my day is essentially like you said: it’s like a job. There are people like you out there - it just takes some time to find them. It took me two weeks of misery to find people who were like me (I was considering transferring or commuting at one point) - and now I’m finally beginning to like it. </p>
<p>If you’re close enough to go home on the weekends, maybe that can help you. I’ve gone home several weekends to write giant papers and such. But, the best thing is to give it a semester and if you don’t like it - explore other options.</p>