<p>Mmorpg Ftw?</p>
<p>Virtually everyone has some need for and desire for companionship. If you were happy being by yourself, you wouldn't have written:
"I suppose I am naturally a loner -- I am either riding my bike to center city or in the music lab on my off-time. Or here listening to music by myself in my room with my door open but nobody saying anything. </p>
<p>I am sort of miserable here so far."</p>
<p>Clearly, while you don't like parties, you'd still like some companionship.</p>
<p>Since you like bike riding is there any club or group of people who goes on rides? Even if there's not an official group on campus, there may be an unofficial one or one in the local community. Even in my small city, there's a group for people who like to go on weekly bike rides. </p>
<p>You like music-- is there any group for people who enjoy concerts, etc.?</p>
<p>A way to meet people could be to go to the TV lounge and bring a box of cookies. Share them with others, and get into conversations about things you enjoy -- music, biking, etc. Don't sit there, however, with headphones on. People will ignore you because they'll think you're busy listening to music.</p>
<p>The same is true for sitting in your room with your door open. If you have headphones on, people probably won't disturb you. Also, you have to reach out to people, not expect that they are going to walk right in and become your buddies. Realize that even though they may not look shy, many others are just as shy and awkward as you are, so even if they're lonely, they will be hesitant about walking right in unless you greet them warmly, introduce yourself and invite them in for cookies or something.</p>
<p>In looking at Temple U's site, I see that there are a variety of get-to-know-you activities this week. My advice is to check them out even if they don't initially seem that interesting to you. Go with an open mind and a welcoming smile because those will be excellent ways to meet other students. <a href="http://www.temple.edu/welcome/schedule.html%5B/url%5D">http://www.temple.edu/welcome/schedule.html</a></p>
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are you asian?
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Good question.</p>
<p>if you can't find one group on that long list, then its you not the school, seems you are really negative</p>
<p>and if you want to be a loner, which you say you are, then why are you unhappy? if you don't wnat to be a loner, then do something about it</p>
<p>you are in one amazing city and one great school</p>
<p>if you are into tech, contact the tech department and see if they need help, even volunteering or whatever</p>
<p>I get the feeling that no matter what we suggest, you will nix it as uninteresting....we can't help if you won't give it a chance</p>
<p>I'm a loner and I'm doing fine.</p>
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I'm a loner and I'm doing fine.
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Me too.</p>
<p>However,if someone is accustomed to be a loner,he won't complain much.</p>
<p>huh? what the heck does being asian have any relevancy to this situation? oh wait...i see...it's because asians are reserved and asocial beings...that stereotype again.</p>
<p>the asian thing is just rampant joke on cc that's been used to answer every question from "what college should I go to" to "should i get a gold tooth" </p>
<p>don't bother getting worked up about it.</p>
<p>personally, it's getting old and not funny, but people will be people.</p>
<p>Actually things are picking up. I met a nice asian girl (haha... true, even though it's ironic with all this CC asian quibble) who is in two of my classes. We ate lunch and exchanged numbers today. Also in a bit I am going to go out with another female friend. So things are awwright.</p>
<p>I am sure everyone appreciates your posting your success! good luck and enjoy the journey!!</p>
<p>cewillm,
Because you did get into Drexel last year, you probably would have a better chance of transfering there than most students. IF things don't continue to improve socially, or you do decide to try to transfer to Drexel, my advise is to contact Drexel's admissions office long before you apply, to let them know you regret your choice, and and to let them know that Dexel is the right college for you. It won't hurt, and will probably boost your chances at reacceptance.</p>
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Actually things are picking up. I met a nice asian girl (haha... true, even though it's ironic with all this CC asian quibble) who is in two of my classes. We ate lunch and exchanged numbers today. Also in a bit I am going to go out with another female friend. So things are awwright.
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Congratulations!
Your social life is getting better obviously.</p>
<p>Actually it's back down again.</p>
<p>Yeaaah, Temple!</p>
<p>Actually it's back down again.</p>
<p>Yeaaah, Temple!</p>
<p>What is it about parties that you don't like?
I have plenty of friends who attend the same parties as me yet don't have a drop of alcohol. Mainstream media even acknowledges this. Watch an episode of Greek or go watch Superbad, both have individuals that do not drink.</p>
<p>haha my cousin is a senior @ Temple.
I'm sorry I have nothing to offer to this conversation. lol.</p>
<p>the OP sounds just like me. i'm at cal.</p>
<p>At least Cal Tech is uh... nerdy. You know, with plenty other like-minded people. Temple is too "diverse" to host such a concentrated group of people. </p>
<p>Drexel is looking better and better. As is Seattle U, where I really really want to go.</p>
<p>FWIW, I just don't like the social aspect of parties. Can people not find an innovative and meaningful way to meet people outside of parties? I'd think I'd be much more likely to meet a meaningful, worthy female at a music lab or some organization than in a party, drinking or not.</p>
<p>The thing is the organizations here seem uninteresting. I'm not religiously affiliated, politically apathetic, and could care less about sports.</p>
<p>I'm going to UCSD, and it's considered to be a nerdy school for the most part. :D</p>
<p>Look for people who really are interested in the classes that you're in, and ask them if they'd like to study with you. Having a study group can be a good way of meeting nice people who share your values and interests.</p>