i am seriously depressed...

<p>norcalguy - it is very easy for you to pass judgement on asian kids when you have never been in their shoes. Each culture has its own family dynamics, some good and some not so good. It may be grand to say, "Take pride in your accomplishments and don't give a rat's @$$ about what other people think." But some culture places great emphasis on what their family, neighbor, teacher think of them. I hope some of you take advantage of what college has to offer by learning about other cultures. It would certainly help you do international business someday. </p>

<p>I feel for OP because so many of us have been there. As everyone has said here, they are good scores. When you get into schools you want, your parents will change their mind (and that's the only time they will change their mind).</p>

<p>I have been in their shoes. Heck, I am one of them. Even if it is a cultural characteristic to seek the approval of others, it's not a healthy one. There are many things about the Asian culture that I admire but I don't know why I should submit to the other, more negative aspects simply because I'm Asian.</p>

<p>My apology and you are right that it could be a negative aspect. I grew up in one and am raising 2 mixed culture Ds. It has been a positive experience for me. If my father did not have as high of expectation of me, I would not have achieved as much and I think the same for all my siblings. I have to admit it, at times it was a lot of pressure and I am trying to tone it down a bit for my Ds. On the other hand, senior year when applying to colleges, my D had no worried about her transcript, while many of her friends wish they had done better fresh/soph years.</p>

<p>OP - Your chem score is higher than mine @@ Someone needs to talk some sense into your parents. Sometimes I find it an irony that parents who demand perfection probably never attained it themselves. Sure, it's wishing for a better future for their offspring, but this kind of pressure is not only damaging, but bordering on the absurd.</p>

<p>What? that's ridiculous, 780 is AMAZING so what are your parents on??</p>

<p>I don't believe that your parents are angry, because you are 20 points from the top score in each category.
Hey, watch what you say about George Mason, buddy!
My married brother with 2 kids who works in the area, who got 800 on the GRE IN MATH, and 760 verbal, got his masters from there in computer science.</p>

<p>(He attended UVa undergrad.)</p>

<p>I am sorry you are going through this. I teased my son after he got a 780 (after 3 800s), and then we took him out to a nice dinner to celebrate. </p>

<p>Although I am an adult, I deal with ignorant comments from my inlaws about the way my kids are being educated, where my son is choosing to apply to college, etc. I respectfully say something like "Please research this issue and I am sure you will see you are incorrect", then I wish a big fat fly would fly into their mouths when they answer. While that is not bery mature of me, it cheers me up, and then I go on with my life. </p>

<p>For the OP, try saying (repectfully) "I am sorry you are disappointed with my scores. I assure you they are considered quite high, and will not adversely affect my college aps, in fact they will enhance them. If you do not beleive me, perhaps you should do some of your own research." Then move on with your life. Repeat a variation above every time they bring it up. Show confidence!</p>

<p>You need something like that every time your parents try and belittle you. Show them respect, and respect yourself too!</p>

<p>I can hardly believe my ears, whoops--eyes. What is wrong with your parents? Although I do recall my younger sister, who is gifted, saying that my father would review her 5th grade report card and never comment on the A's, but always zeroed in on the B+ and wanted to know why.
So it is not just Asian parents.
Still--well, sorry, Renak, I thought you were making this up. Guess you know the cure, when you are around them, look worried and exhausted.
Also, the respondent who said your parents probably were not all that successful in school/life/whatever and are on your back to be successful as a result--that is actually true. Most parents are competitive for their children. I am ashamed to say I did the same to my daughter in 7th grade. I yelled at her just as your parents are doing to you. With the same result--she was depressed. And now she is just angry (going into 11th grade). She's going off to boarding school (for gifted kids, high test scores, blah, blah) this fall, and hopefully that will help her.
Just don't do that to your kids.<br>
I don't know why parents are so competitive. Human nature, I suppose.</p>

<p>Oasis: You are so right. Congrats on your wisdom so young in life.</p>

<p>First of all, a 780 (2 of them) is a very good score. And if you tried your best through studying, taking practice tests, w/e, your parents are at fault. Whether they are disappointed or not, however, is something different. They are simply disappointed because they expected more of you, in this case perfection.</p>

<p>I suggest you not try to rebel or tell them to eff off. As someone who also has Asian parents, I know firsthand that this is not a good idea. I encourage you to ignore what they're saying and put this behind you. In time, I'm sure they will come around (mine did). Get into a good college with your 780s and make your parents proud.</p>

<p>Good luck</p>

<p>Are your parents crack-heads?</p>

<p>sorry dude, but are you serious? you probably missed like 4 questions TOTAL and you're upset? I think you (or your parents i should say) need a little reality check. those scores are good enough to get you into almost every academic institution in the country.</p>

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For the OP, try saying (repectfully) "I am sorry you are disappointed with my scores. I assure you they are considered quite high, and will not adversely affect my college aps, in fact they will enhance them. If you do not beleive me, perhaps you should do some of your own research." Then move on with your life. Repeat a variation above every time they bring it up. Show confidence!

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<p>Best advice I've seen yet. This is EXACTLY the way to handle it.</p>