<p>And I realize there are a lot of threads like this on tonight, but it's killing me. </p>
<p>My girlfriend just broke up with me last night and I've had this horrible feeling in my stomach ever since. It seems like everywhere I go things are reminding me of her (even coming on here..."shy girls" she was shy..."girlfriend situation" well I obviously have one). I care about her so much and I don't think she'll find anyone that's as good to her as I was/would be. I feel like I liked her for all the right reasons...I don't think she's incredibly hot or anything, but she's really pretty and there's no one I'd rather be with. </p>
<p>The past week or so, things haven't been the same as they were for the first couple months together (4 months officially, probably closer to six that there was something more there). I recognize that. When she broke up, that's the reason she gave and it was happening to me so fast I didn't know what to say. </p>
<p>I called her a little while later and left a message that I wanted to talk about it (she had gone to bed). She hasn't called back, and she was being really cold to me in school. </p>
<p>I really wish she had talked to me first. If we both thought something wasn't right, we could have fixed it. It's not like we had a broken relationship (or even an argument) either, it was just that we weren't clicking the way we originally had. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it's not right to just give up on a relationship like that. </p>
<p>Anyway, here's what I see are my options.
A. Talk to her best friend (who I suppose is [maybe WAS] also a good friend of mine). I think her best friend will tell her whatever I say, but honestly I don't care because it's only stuff I would say to her if she gave me the chance. Just how much she means to me and that I don't want to let her walk away.
B. Wait a couple days and then try to talk to her.
C. Give up. This would be one of the hardest things I'll ever do. In the past, making the move has always been the hardest part (I waited much longer than I should have even for her) but she's so different and means so much to me that I can't just let her leave. I'm not saying we'll get married (in no way) but out of the girls I know, she's the one that I want to be with at the very least through the rest of high school.</p>
<p>Have you ever seen the movie Closer? Natalie Portman’s character instantly leaves the man she has loved for years just for one thing he did (that wasn’t exactly relationship-ending).</p>
<p>Just go with the flow. I know it hurts. But if it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t.</p>
<p>Just give yourself some time to get over her and then you’ll discover some amazing new girl. That how it always works out.</p>
<p>B. Definitely do B. If B does not work, do A. </p>
<p>She is hurt or upset about something. You need to give her time to work it out. I know it’s tough, but there’s hope. My bf and I went out for about a year and then he did that to me. After about a week he realized he still loved me. We are now engaged.</p>
<p>I hope that everything works out for the best. If she doesn’t come around then it wasn’t worth it anyway. The pain will subside, I promise. </p>
<p>Best of luck! PM me if you need help or have questions (I’ve been in that situation far too often).</p>
<p>I second romanigypsyeyes’s suggestion. By not talking to her, all you really show is that you don’t care enough to talk to her. I mean, she has the right to break with you, but you have the right (social, not legal) to talk about it with her.</p>
<p>Oh, by the way, I didn’t know you were engaged, romanigypsyeyes! Congratulations! In case you didn’t hear, the awesome calculus teacher we both had is now also engaged.</p>
<p>Well, I just broke up with my boyfriend around a month ago. And he seemed to feel the same way as you.</p>
<p>But it’s done. It’s over. I’m not going to get back together with him ever again. Then again, he did things to me that you probably never did to your girlfriend.</p>
<p>^^ I KNOW! I congratulated her on facebook today (wow that sounds so bad). If you see her tell her I said congrats in person! Gah I was so happy. I was in her class when they first started dating. She was so lit up after their first date (it was cute). </p>
<p>^Yeah, she told me all about some of their dates. I think they went to see an orchestra concert on one of their first dates. I feel like that’s typical for her. I’ll give her your congratulations, and mine.</p>
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<p>Well, after a point, maybe the best way to love somebody is to leave them alone. But the OP hasn’t reached that point.</p>
<p>I don’t know…I mean I’m also thinking on one hand I don’t want to make her uncomfortable about it or anything. I mean I’m her first boyfriend I think she may not really know how to handle this…I don’t want to be that creepy ex boyfriend that never got over her. </p>
<p>And she’s my first girlfriend that worth mentioning too. So it’s not like I’m a fountain of wisdom either, I just know I can’t let this be as I have left other things.</p>
<p>Obviously, last night sucked. But it’s still hitting me tonight. I came home from my game which she wasn’t at and wasn’t able to call her to tell her about it…There are things she had been talking about that I want to know how they went…I can’t just stop caring about these things. It’s not who I am. </p>
<p>I guess in the past it was easier to let people go because it’s always more gradual than one day you’re my best friend and the next we’re not talking. </p>
<p>At this point, I’m just rambling, so I’m gonna retire to bed with some Coldplay…</p>
<p>Nullisecundus: I was in the exact same situation as you about half a year ago, even the official time together and reason for breaking up were identical. I tried my best to repair the relationship: writing a letter everyday, incessant attempts of phone calls(those were quite annoying, i have to admit). But eventually, after a month or so, I realized that what I did was a complete waste of energy and time. Once she’s out of your life, she’s gone, and often times there’s no way to get her back. I know it’s hard but, the best thing you can do now is to forget her, dispose of everything that reminds you of her if necessary(that’s what I did). And try to get back on your life. Trust me, you really shouldn’t be wasting any more time on this.</p>
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(I’ve been in that situation far too often).</p>
I’ll give her your congratulations, and mine.</p>