<p>All throughout high school i've had one best friend, and i've been dating the same guy for over 2 years. Throughout high school I've felt kind of awkward around people, i'm really friendly but I feel like I never really put myself out there enough to befriend new people.. I'm currently a freshman in college and before I got here I was telling myself that I would completely start over once i moved in. My boyfriend and I both attend the same university and I wanted to be able to start a new life with him and have us both make new friends and meet new people. So far the only people I feel like I've bonded with are my two room mates, and apparently they don't feel the same way about me. They go out without inviting me and over break have made plans to meet up since we all live within half an hour of eachother and they never bothered to ask me if I wanted to come. I don't understand what i'm doing wrong, im not unfriendly, i don't isolate myself from them for my boyfriend, if anything i try to get us all to hang out as a group. I wish it was something I was doing myself so that I could change it but I really have no idea... I think they don't like the fact that i'd rather not go out on weekends unless my boyfriend is there because I don't feel safe, and i know that if i were in a situation where I had to leave and come home i couldn't rely on my roommates to get me home, but I know my boyfriend would. I've told them this and they say they understand so I don't know what else I could be doing wrong... like i said i'm a really friendly outgoing person and I put myself out there but I get nothing back. What could I do to change this or what could be the cause? Thanks so much =/</p>
<p>If you have turned them down a lot in the past they probably will stop inviting you out since you don’t seem interested. I know I had friends who would always say no to going out so I eventually just stopped inviting them because it didn’t seem worth the effort. Telling them you don’t think you could rely on them to make sure you got home safe was probably not a good move. If someone said that to me I know I would not like them very much at all because I don’t like people assuming I’m untrustworthy. </p>
<p>Do you ever hang/ go out with just them? It can be kind of annoying or weird when a couple goes out together with a bunch of other people, particularly if they do couple-y things. </p>
<p>You don’t mention any social activities. Are you a member of any clubs or anything like that? Personally I think lecture style classes are a bad way to meet lasting friends for the most part and you are a million times more likely to make friends by actively participating in a club. </p>
<p>Also when you do meet someone do you try to get them to hang out with you and your boyfriend or do you do things just with them? It can be pretty intimidating if someone tries to get you to hang out with their SO right away for a variety of reasons.</p>