I can't stand my asian dad

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>So the story goes</p>

<p>Last year I auditioned for the piano part in my school's symphony orchestra. I used to play for four years when I was younger but then I quit even though I didn't want to (my parents made me for reasons beyond me). But then, I got accepted into the orchestra so I thought I'd take up lessons again. My mom was for it but my dad's firmly against it saying how it's a complete waste of my time, etc. But I started taking lessons again anyway.</p>

<p>So I'm practicing my piano today and my dad told me to stop playing because my music “sounds like noise”. I said I have to practice because I have a lesson soon but he wouldn't listen. He said he had to cope with my horrible playing for four years and can't take it any longer. So I yelled back that I have to practice in order to get better and he responded that that's not the way to speak to your father.</p>

<p>What the hell? So now I can only practice when he's out of the house and since he's unemployed, that means never.</p>

<p>I hate having asian parents. Some words of comfort/advice would help.</p>

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<p>Well asian parents are stubborn like that. You just have to do it anyways. But here’s the thing: what kind of asian parent doesn’t want their kids playing piano?</p>

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<p>tell him to get a job…and practice in secret</p>

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<p>I hate these threads. The amount of self imposed Asian hating on this board is a joke. Why do you hate yourself so much? It makes no sense.</p>

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<p>You’re going to be like him one day</p>

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<p>“Well asian parents are stubborn like that.”</p>

<p>very asian-centric point of view</p>

<p>you don’t have asian father problems you have jackass father problems. join the group.</p>

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<p>This.</p>

<p>My father hit me with a belt until my skin broke and I bled. It’s not about his race, I think it’s about him sucking.</p>

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<p>I have the same question.</p>

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<p>More ■■■■■■ on CC? Some kids just don’t know what to do with themselves over the summer.</p>

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<p>I didn’t mention that my father was Asian. My father isn’t Asian.</p>

<p>Fighting back? My father is 6’2". I am 5’1".</p>

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<p>wow. guys we all go through this. my life is quite similar but with brown parents. whatever, i’ve succumed and realized that one day or the other they’re realize that i’m not perfect.</p>

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<p>Dude, that sucks a lot. But don’t let yourself believe that he is like that because he is Asian. He is like that because that’s just the type of guy he is. It wouldn’t matter if he was black, white, yellow, or brown. If he has a personality like that, it’s just how it is. I get that there are many asian parents that push hard and are often unfair, but there are lots of parents like that in other races. And I know it’s really easy and sometimes even comforting to blame it on race, as soon as an asian guy himself admits that his parents are the way they are because of race, the stereotype is strengthened and ignorant, racist bastards start giving asian people crap about it.</p>

<p>But anyways, I think you should do whatever you want and the next time your Dad is unfair about it, you should just own him (verbally haha)</p>

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<p>threaten to report him to child protective services. if he doesn’t believe you, get a phone book and start flipping the pages.</p>

<p>it worked for my parents. they know not to mess with me.</p>

<p>you can also say, you’re the parent and i’m the child so you should be held to a higher standard than me</p>

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<p>[YouTube</a> - Family guy Asian family](<a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zx7Pz7U8lj8]YouTube”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zx7Pz7U8lj8)</p>

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<p>It was 3 years ago, so it’s no big now. I don’t talk to him and it’s great. I’m just hoping he doesn’t disinherit me.</p>

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<p>oh well that’s good. if he abuses you he doesn’t deserve to be talked to v_v</p>

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<p>I’m not sure about the circumstances behind your father’s immigration or history or such, but there might always be an underlying reason for such bitterness or for anything your father does that you don’t understand.</p>

<p>For example, I’m not a big fan of math, so every time (for 7th grade-9th grade), whenever my dad offered to help with math, I would decline, and the few times that I really did need clarification, I disrespected him while he was trying to teach/help me. Then, one day in the summer of 9th, my mom let in on a piece of my father’s history that I had never known. After he graduated from a Chinese college at 18, he came to America. He then went to the University of Rochester and studied to get his pHd in math. Math was his forte, and he had taken up a job as a math professor’s teaching assistant during his graduate studies. He discovered that teaching math was his passion. However, he had to give up this dream and earn a degree in computer science, (the specifics behind this are unknown to me, I wouldn’t feel right asking). The limited salaries and financial problems, caused by supporting a family with two parents that had limited english, made him basically give up his passion and dream career path so that me and my sister could live with relative comfort today and receive a good education in America.</p>

<p>Once I realized this, I felt great sadness and pride for my dad. If I had to give up my dreams and passion and settle into a job that I wouldn’t necessarily enjoy all to support my future, unborn children, I’m not entirely sure I would do it. I realized the pain and lost dreams he was trying to embrace every time he asked if I needed help with math. Thus, whenever I can, I try to let him live his dream a little and teach me math, it’s my way of showing my meager thanks for him making it so I don’t have to walk 5-10 miles of country road everyday in China to get to a barely-functioning school.</p>

<p>You might want to talk things out with your father, get to know him better, and find out why he’s acting the way he is. A problem that I’ve noticed with oriental families is the lack of emotional connection between the fathers and sons. The general situation I’ve seen is that the father and son don’t ever really get to know or understand each other. The father might talk a bit about his history, and the son a bit about school, but they never really connect heart-to-heart, and this is a travesty.</p>

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<p>This is random, but I want to find that idiot who made/suggested/came up with that stupid family guy episode and rip his lungs out</p>

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<p>^^^ I loled so hard at that.</p>

<p>You have a weird ass asian dad haha…my dad was always telling me to practice more as a child even though I played violin…and when you suck at violin, it sounds BAD.</p>

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<p>what a beautiful college essay</p>