<p>faiintx, I feel so bad for you. I keep checking back here to see how you are doing. Try to understand your parents’ perspective. Mostly, they are scared. They seem mad, but they are scared. The biggest investment we parents make is in our children. For 18 years, (more if we have more than 1 child) we give up things for ourselves - our time, our money, our immediate “wants” - all to devote them to our kids. Because we love them, we don’t mind doing it. And along the way, we develop hopes and dreams for you. We want you to be successful, happy, well-adjusted and have a great future. And we’re scared of anything that looks like it might derail that plan! Unfortunately, what we forget is that we made mistakes too. And sometimes, we’re guilty of expecting more from you than we expect of ourselves. (Ouch!) Especially since your brother has “had his share of troubles,” your parents are probably feeling extra protective of you. </p>
<p>I think, when things cool down a little, you need to have an honest discussion with them about what happened. Tell them what you’ve learned from your mistakes, and try to reassure them that you still have the same goals for yourself and for your future, and that you, like them, don’t want to see that messed up. Let them know that you are capable of making good choices, and remind them of how you’ve done that in the past. You can get into trouble wherever you go to school; that is out of their control! What they need to know is that, even though you messed up, you’re still the same girl, and they can still trust you. They want to be able to do that. Big hug…</p>