<p>I'm a freshman living in a residential hall for the first time. I'm less than an hour away from home yet I'm miserable. I've been here for about a week and I'm counting the days until I get to go home. I never wanted to go to a residential college and still don't. My parents know very well how uncomfortable I am here, but I'm not allowed leave. I feel like I'm in jail. I know I should "wait it out" but I honestly don't feel like I can nor do I have the will power. I know I'll feel the same way throughout the year. I don't know what to do or how to cope, or even how to convice my parents that I don't belong here.</p>
<p>Ps. Where I'm at, there's a three week period where it's just the freshman on campus. I was hoping to leave after that, because I can't handle the extra stress when others come onto campus. My parents said I should wait until the semester ends, but that's just so far away.</p>
<p>Try going to basic training and then specialty school…no privacy, sharing the room with 50+ people and you can’t leave at all. All levity aside it sounds like college wasn’t what you wanted to do…</p>
<p>Why exactly do you not want to be there? Is it the lack of privacy? Or do you just not want to live among strangers?</p>
<p>I understand how you feel; I had the same feelings a month ago. I’m an only child, and I live in a country thousands of miles away from my college. You can imagine how hard it is for me to leave my home. It’s really scary for me to live with strangers, especially without privacy. </p>
<p>I haven’t left yet, but now I’m really looking forward to it - because it might be the happiest 4 years of my life. I want to start my life over again. I can make friends and even find a significant other. I won’t deny it, it might just be the worst part of my life - but you have to hope. I don’t want to be mean, but a life without optimism isn’t worth living.</p>
<p>Anyhow. I think you’ll learn to love it. It starts rough but it essentially gets better. I started off college miserable with no friends and by the end of the year I was happier, made friends, and this upcoming year I’m living with some friends that I made last semester. It gets better. It’s stormy now, but it can’t rain forever. </p>
<p>Talk to a Counselor like Batllo said, but you also need to remember that a lot of people feel that way in the beginning. It’s only the first week & like most people, you’ll probably learn to love it.</p>
<p>If you can’t stand being away from home and being all on your own then this is something you should stick through since it’ll happen sooner or later and you might as well get over it while everyone else is, or it’ll just be harder later.</p>
<p>If it’s a privacy thing, think about getting a single.</p>
<p>You just thinking too much about it.
To the new things, we sure would feel scare, but everyone would adjust to it.
Just don’t think it too important and just have some fun.</p>
<p>Normal adjustment period. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. MUCH better to adjust to leaving the nest while you’re young, in college, and have the support of your parents then to wait until you’re in your mid-twenties.</p>
<p>I would at least try to wait it out until the semester ends and give it a shot. I do agree with some of the others who said to talk to a therapist because he/she might help you sort your feelings out. Last year, I was miserable during my first semester and my parents told me to wait it out just so I wouldn’t have any regrets. Good luck and I hope things work out for you!</p>
<p>Absolutely, positively go to see your school counselor NOW. They can help you sort through this and help determine if this is a temporary adjustment or whether you’d be better off at home. Probably it’s the former, but a trained counselor can help you figure it out and if it’s the latter, the counselor will give you strategies for dealing with your parents.</p>