<p>Hi.
The only thought that keeps me from stop crying is that there must be so many more students with better grades than me who didn’t get into their first choice school- that I am not the only one.
I got rejected from my dream school. I didn’t have life in high school. I was miserable. I came to high school that I hated from the beginning just because my parents thought it would be good for me. I swallowed all my sadness and anger in high school years and thought all this suffer will be rewarding at the end. This thought got me through high school. That I will get into Cornell at the end and be happy. Then I failed. I got rejected but my best friend with lower scores got accepted. I can’t see my best friend anymore. It breaks my heart whenever I thnk of my dream school. My best friend is very optimistic and I am very pessimistic. I guess colleges could see that. Still, I loved that college and tried my best. My parents told me I suck. I complained how my counselor never let me take Ap classes because I am an international student and how my easy schedule hurt me. I had 2170 on SAT as a junior and I scored 2310. I tried my best. For the first time, I told my parents to off. I told them to go die. I told them I am not afraid of anything anymore since I couldnt have one thing in life I wanted. I told them they can not pay moeny for me and kick me out. I said I would rather starve on the street then to suck up to them. I told them they made me become a monster who only goes for good grades and such and told them that that only left me become a failure because I couldn’t get what I wanted at the end. I told them to die and donate cornell the money from life insurance so I can get in. I didn’t mean what I said. After saying that I felt like a monster. I felt like a trash and I cried a lot. I cried every night after my rejection. I don’t want to go to any other college. But they have faults. They educated me wrong. They hit me, kicked me until my confidence faded. They hurt me when I procrastinated on my study. They were only trying to help me have better grades in their own way. They think they did the best but their way was wrong. They called me a begger a trash and all sorts. Now I told them I call it back because I becoming the monster and a failure is the result of their wrong education. I told them that they are trash and that’s why their kid is a trash. I told them that I will not have a child in future because I know I am a monster and a trash that my child will only take those traits of me.
What should I do now? I don’t talk to my parents anymore. I don’t have a best friend anymore. I fake smile at school. My life is empty. My life is ruined. What should I do? I am not brave enough to kill myself. I wish there was a way to die without pain. But I don’t know how to do that. If I can’t die, then I don’t want to live like this. But I don’t know where to start? I don’t want to see my parents anymore. I don’t want to see my best friend and I hate my school.</p>
<p>It’s been nearly a month since the Cornell decisions were released, right?
It is time to regroup and look ahead.
Are all of your other applications done?</p>
<p>Hi,
I’m a senior in high school as well. I want to tell you outright that you are not a failure! I would kill for your SAT scores. You must remember that as attached as you may get to a school, it is not the only school for you. I know everyone says that you will end up where you are meant to be, and i do believe that. At every college you will find others like you who you can connect to and gorw with as a person. I’m sorry to sound cliche but I want to help you. I haven’t been very happy with my high school experience either. I switched schools after freshman year, by this point groups in my high school had been formed and I felt like an outsider. After some unsuccessful social interactions in my sophmore year, I decided to throw myself into my studies with the thought that it would all pay off when I got into my dream college. I was miserable but I got the GPA I wanted.
PLEASE DO NOT TAKE ANY DRASTIC MEASURES! It may seem that your life is over, but it isn’t. You can still get into the right college and fix your relationship with your friend. But you need to understand that you do not hold all the blame and neither do your parents or guidance counselor. They were all just trying to do what they thought would benifit you the most. Also remember that you are more than test scores and grades, you’re a person with feelings and dreams and that’s why the essay is so important to schools. If you’re applyinng to an Ivy League school, the admission people really look beyond scores becasue almost everyone who is applying has the scores.
I really think that you should sit down with your parents and guidance counselor and discuss a game plan for further applications (hopefully you have already applied to some other schools). I would also take another look at your college essay; you don’t want to come across pessimistic, show them everything that is amazing and special about you. Best of luck, and remeber that you are not trash or a moster. Rejection hurts but it is not what defines us. You can change your life and everything will work out.</p>
<p>You are not a failure. I have a friend whose daughter also wanted to go to Cornell and was rejected. She went to RPI with a great merit scholarship, graduated in three years, did research every summer and is now a happy grad student at Cornell.</p>
<p>hellocornell - you needed not to put all your eggs in the Cornell basket. OK, so you didn’t get in to your dream school. Is Cornell the only university in America? Of course not. You made your happiness contingent on one university. That’s not good.</p>
<p>I think this is a good lesson for all. There is no reason to get your hopes up on 1 particular college. There are many, many great colleges at all levels. Apply to a bunch and see what happens.</p>
<p>You are not a failure…your stats are great…There are many colleges that would be a fit for you…</p>
<p>This is the second such post you’ve made about your relationship with your parents. I would talk to a counselor at your boarding school.</p>
<p>Where else did you apply. Let’s look forward.</p>
<p>How many people are happy and successful that didn’t attend Cornell?
Don’t think your parents made you a failure.
Don’t choose failure.
Choose to succeed.
Name calling and crying about one’s situation however, won’t help one to succeed.</p>
<p>Mods: Is there a way we can flag posters like this, who really may be in serious trouble and thinking about doing drastic things? This really bothers me.</p>
<p>I agree with Pizzagirl-- this young person needs more help than we can give. Meanwhile, OP-- I think you must know there are many more places beside Cornell where you could be happy and thrive. With your mindset, Cornell would probably have been a disappointment! You need some counseling and a pal to vent to, right away. Where’s the second best friend. Go straight to the school guidance office, they can help you. You shouldn’t be suffering like this… and come back and tell us how you’re doing.</p>
<p>Hi,</p>
<p>Please trust me when I say that no matter how big and impossible your situation seems now, you CAN and WILL make it through this. I am sorry to see how upset and devastated you are. It truly is not your fault that you didn’t get into Cornell, and you didn’t fail your life. You did your best, and your best was GREAT! With a school like Cornell, being fully qualified as a great candidate is just a way of entering the lottery. From there, you still have to have luck to be accepted from among all the other candidates. You didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, you have accomplished some major, difficult things – not “just” your scores and grades, but making it at a school you don’t like, and dealing with everything around the application and its result. You should be proud of yourself. I am sorry that your parents aren’t telling you that.</p>
<p>I know it’s easy to feel like getting into the “right” college is the true measure of your success or failure in life, but that just isn’t true. Getting into a college leads to going to college, and that leads to study and work, and on with the rest of your life, your career, relationships… your story wouldn’t have been over the day you got an acceptance, and it’s not over the day you get a rejection, either. You can turn this around and make it a challenge, use it to make yourself a stronger person, able to surmount this challenge and all the other ones that will come your way.</p>
<p>Please do consider speaking to a counselor. You’re smart – you can see that you are really hurting, and you need some help processing your disappointment and your choices. Can you pick a time in the future and imagine yourself there, to get through the tough times now? Perhaps one year from now, when you are returning to college after your first winter break? Or perhaps five years from now, when you are enjoying your first apartment and job? Or maybe just five months from now, when the sun will be shining and you’ll have a high school diploma to be proud of.</p>
<p>A lot of people care about you – please take care of yourself.</p>
<p>You need to take a chill pill and get some perspective.</p>
<p>Dream colleges are more like finding a soulmate than like buying your dream car…anybody with enough money can get his dream car; falling in love with your soulmate is only half the battle–the soulmate has to fall in love with you too. Likewise, a student falling in love with a college is only half the battle–the college has to accept the student before you’ve got anything but a dream. Seems like a lot of students seem to think that if they love their dream college enough, they’ve got a love connection, but the cruel reality is that it’s more complicated than that.</p>
<p>I got denied by Cornell University on the early decision round too. </p>
<p>You’ll probably get over it when you get your acceptance letters, especially those with scholarships or from another top choice. I don’t know what your GPA is, but that SAT score says you’ll have a lot of choices.</p>
<p>I know all the messages of “so-and-so went to RPI and is now at Cornell!” and “you’ll get into other top choices!” are meant to be helpful – but that just reinforces that self-worth is based on getting into top schools. hellocornell, you are a worthwhile, good person, REGARDLESS of the school you wind up at. </p>
<p>Please go seek out your headmaster or someone else in authority at your school and show them this thread.</p>
<p>Cornell is awonderful school and I have two kids who attend but there are many other schools that will make you very happy to attend. You have scored very well and will have many schools that are happy to have you attend. Please don’t feel like this was the only place for you.</p>
<p>OP
Please find someone, a mentor - friend or relative, who you can talk to, and who can guide you toward some professional help. To feel this deserted and worthless over not getting into a certain school is a sign that something is not right and you need some guidance. At the very least you need a sympathetic ear.
We can all tell you it is not that important, which school you go to, but until you have accepted that fact, it does us and you no good to continue to say it. I wish you the best</p>
<p>Looking back on previous posts by OP, issues were present well before the Cornell decision was announced. </p>
<p>I’ll repeat what other members of CC have suggested (here and on previous threads by this OP). Seek out help at your boarding school. Tell a teacher. Tell a counselor. Seek professional counseling to deal with your emotional pain.</p>
<p>When people are upset they say hurtful things and many times they regret afterward. Believe me it happens to all. Times will cure the misunderstandings and harsh words. </p>
<p>It seems that you have rock bottom; it is fine to cry but pick it up the pieces, if you can pray do it, many people alleges it helped them in the darkest moments. If you don’t pray them meditate, but don’t surrender. Now is the time for you to establish new goals. Read positive books that will help you to lift your esteem and spirit.</p>
<p>There will be here a lot of people that are cheering for you and we will have positive thoughts and best wishes for your success. Please come back and share your thoughts it could help all.</p>